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Hi. Im new to the forum so just wanted to introduce myself. Im 29 and have ocd. I suffered really badly at the age of 11 when my mum and dad split but then the compulsions gradually got less without me really working at them too much. I got with my boyfriend (now ex) 7 years ago. Long story short we had several things happen in our relationship (not related to the relationship but outside factors) which brought on my ocd again about 4 and a half years ago. It just got worse. I even moved from the house wed brought as i thought that was the trigger. He went through hell with me. I thought i was getting better but all i was doing was getting better at hiding it and the compulsions people knew about they allowed me to carry on. So i didnt see the problem-you know what its like. Anyway, 2 months ago he split from me. He said he couldnt cope any more and if he stayed with me much longer he would commit suicide. Im obviously destrought. Ive lost someone that put up with so much even though i promised id get better. Ive lost my home and a lot of money. But on top of that i have the realisation im worse with my ocd and i also have the guilt of making him poorly. He has his own anxiety and depression problems now. Ive started on medication and im awaiting therapy. Im also off work at the mo and my occy health guy is great so hes trting to help. I try and master some things but others seem so hard. I dont want losing my relationship to be in vain but will i ever get past this with how much its already consumed my life?
 
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hello D and welcome have you ever had counseling, that would help you to recognise your triggers and how not to run with them.
 
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Hey. Im ashamed to say i had cbt before but didnt stick it out. Im currently waiting on counselling as they want to explore underlying issues to see why i may have ocd.
 
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Hi_1988

:welcome: to the forum.

It is fantastic that you've made the decision to do something about what you're facing. It sounds like it's been really tough getting to that point. Breaking up with your boyfriend who knows you so well must be terribly difficult, especially when you're at a time when your OCD is severe.

From what you say I think this web page might help:

Overcome OCD: Recovery tips for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

It's been written by Dr David Carbonell, a psychologist who has a lot of expertise in treating anxiety disorders. It might be worth also exploring his website. His work is grounded in evidenced based research and so it's known to work.

He has a couple of good books available from Amazon which might help:

The Worry Trick: How Your Brain Tricks You into Expecting the Worst and What You Can Do About It: Amazon.co.uk: David A Carbonell: 9781626253186: Books

Panic Attacks Workbook: A Guided Program for Beating the Panic Trick: Amazon.co.uk: David Carbonell: 9781569754153: Books

Keep us informed with how your journey goes.

You might like to keep a journal about it in the forum's journals section. It can help you track your progress.

I so hope things go well for you. It's going to take a lot of work but it sounds like you're up for that!
 
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hey mischief just been watching the video and it seems its panic and not anxiety then that i am in the miserable loop of.

so then what is the difference between anxiety and panic then i wonder?
and today was a massive day of it due to some scammers trying to trick me. not once but twice. gee what a day:panic:
 
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Hey. Im ashamed to say i had cbt before but didnt stick it out. Im currently waiting on counselling as they want to explore underlying issues to see why i may have ocd.
yeah me too i had to tell the cbt person that i couldn't continue after telling her from the get go, that i am not great with a lot of information and what does cbt but constantly churns out information. so she didnt even listen to me in the first place. i was so set back by this and once again i had failed. so yeah i do understand
 
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yeah me too i had to tell the cbt person that i couldn't continue after telling her from the get go, that i am not great with a lot of information and what does cbt but constantly churns out information.
Yep, there certainly can be a lot of information when working with CBT approaches, but it needs to be presented in ways, in quantities and at a speed which you can digest them .....it's no use using the script that is for everyone.... it needs to be for you.

It's one of the reason's I think David Carbonell's books are good. The language they use is easy to understand and they bring in real life situations.

so she didnt even listen to me in the first place. i was so set back by this and once again i had failed. so yeah i do understand
The CBT person failed...not you. They clearly weren't listening to you or being reflective of your needs.
 
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welcome to the forum :)
 
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Thanks mischief didn’t mean to derail D_1988 but I have had a few what I call a few ah ha moments tonight

My friend saw me today not for the first time when I am in a panic always denied it was panic and called it anxiety . anyways, they are trying to help me. When I think that no one has managed before …
 
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hey mischief just been watching the video and it seems its panic and not anxiety then that i am in the miserable loop of.
That's a useful bit of knowledge gained. I'm glad you posted the video. That was a good refresher for me!

so then what is the difference between anxiety and panic then i wonder?
In my experience it is the intensity and duration of the symptoms.

and today was a massive day of it due to some scammers trying to trick me. not once but twice. gee what a day:panic:
That sounds terrible! Poor you!
 
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That's a useful bit of knowledge gained. I'm glad you posted the video. That was a good refresher for me!



In my experience it is the intensity and duration of the symptoms.



That sounds terrible! Poor you!
ok so the intensity goes on for gee long periods of time. it was just lucky that i decided today was the day that i was not going to give in to it and that was before the scammers and then a phone company that keeps changing what it is saying to me and i am left totally confused.

so this intensity and duration then if its going on for long periods of time then that is anxiety then? well anyway whatever it is its miserable and screwed my life over somewhat.

yeah the vid thought it might be helpful to the OP
 
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Thanks for the replies everyone. I will certainly watch the videos and investigate the links.
Yeah. I had the same problems with my cbt therapist. The 1st one i thought would be great but she left due to illness and ended up with some douch taking over who was not listening to me and understanding what i was saying. Its deffo a hard time so i feel for you too.
Heres to battling this.....
 
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