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I've been dealing with anxiety for most of my life. I have recently had quite a bad relapse and started having what I would describe as anxiety attacks. I'm certain there are people suffering a lot more than me but here goes...

My home life and work life are good. I'm happily married with a 1 year old daughter and even like my job (most days).

My issue seems to be around socialising. I need to stick to my routine. By this I mean, work, home, house work, play with my daughter, put her to bed, T.V., video games, reading, sleep. Anything that interrupts that causes varying degrees of anxiety and recently it has been debilitating. I also have quite strict boundaries. Apart from my immediate family I have one person that I will allow to be close to me and I've known them for 22 years. I've recently had to back away from a friendship as it was something I felt like I just couldn't deal with.

Right now I am feeling like a bad person. My anxiety causes me a lot guilt. I feel like I have been selfish.

There are other things aswell that contribute to my feelings but I won't go into that right now.

Thank you to anyone who read this.
 
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Hi St Domingo, Welcome to the Forum :) It sounds like your world is narrowing down due to anxiety. So you have your routine, your comfort zone. But think about the example this sets for your child. You might want to challenge your comfort zone and expand your world, instead.
 
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Poopy doll brings up a good point. You also have to realize that you shouldn't feel guilty. Now, I'm not saying that you should use it as an excuse but remember that this anxiety is putting a lot of stress on you. It is confining you and narrowing down your life into an autonomous routine. Also, if you are having panic attacks than consider taking cognitive behavioral therapy which helps you to overcome negative thoughts about change therefore leading to less and less panic attacks. This will not only help you but your family especially your child from developing this kind of anxiety further in life.
 
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I am concerned about how my daughter may perceive things and the example it may set for her. I have thought about this many times. I try to take her out as often as possible, to play groups, play area's where she can mix with other children, swimming and to see her cousins regularly. My wife has a horse and we hope to get her involved with that. I see these things as 'family time' and it's all within my comfort zone.

I'm thinking of accessing counselling through my work. I've tried this before but it just caused more anxiety. I'm willing to try again though.

Thanks for replying guys. I'm not in a good place at the moment.
 
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facing up to having counselling sessions will cause anxiety as something like this is way outside your comfort zone. I am a pensioner who has suffered life long anxiety and depression. I cope fine day to day but the least variation, even having to use the telephone, is really hard.
Finding coping strategies is useful. List making in my case. When I have to travel across the country to visit family and have to use various forms of public transport I have precise lists in a notebook for every stage of the journey. The notebook is in my hand for a lot of the time so I can refer to it.
Glad you have found this forum as there are a lot of people around here who will understand what you are going through
 
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Thanks for the reply. It means a lot that people are listening and helping.
 
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