• Hi. It’s great to see you. Welcome!

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life. Amongst our membership there is a wealth of expertise that has been developed through having to deal with mental health issues.

    We are an actively moderated forum with a team of experienced moderators. We also have a specialist safety team that works extra hard to keep the forum safe for visitors and members.

    Register now to access many more features and forums!

Hello everyone!

KittenVonDoom

KittenVonDoom

Member
Joined
Oct 2, 2019
Messages
19
Location
hobe sound, fl 33455
Hi from Florida! I'm KittenVonDoom and I have BPD, Anxiety and General Depressive order. I am working very hard to get myself well. I'm getting there slowly. I can make it through the day without a crying jag-So I'll count that as a win! I've been married for almost 20 years and I have 4 adult children. I have 2 granddaughters.

I spend my time doing crafts and I love to color.

I am glad to be here to talk with people who know what I am going though.

To everyone-Keep up the good fight. You are stronger than you think.
 
A

AwkwardAngela

Active member
Joined
Sep 28, 2019
Messages
27
Location
Omaha
Hello! 🙂
I have been here for only a few days and I already feel great being with people who deal with my same issues. I hope you feel the same. Anyway, I wanted to ask you about having mental health issues while having children. I am a 26 year old female. I grew up with a mom who was undiagnosed BP. This caused a lot of harm in my past. I now have GAD, depression, and complex ptsd. Can you talk about how you cared for your kids while having mental illness? Did you tell them at some point?
I want to have children at some point but I am terrified of having them be affected by my mental illness. Any thoughts?
 
KittenVonDoom

KittenVonDoom

Member
Joined
Oct 2, 2019
Messages
19
Location
hobe sound, fl 33455
Well, the easy answer is I don't know. I look back at their younger years and I don't recognize that life. I am an only child and I was never around kids. So being responsible for them was so foreign to me. I did the best I could.

I've had depression for as long as I can remember. In my teenage years I was hospitalized for suicide attempts. When I had my kids, I really felt that it was supposed to happen this way. There was a reason for why things happened the way they did.

In all truth-I guess I just did what I had to do and bottled up the feelings-not that it didn't break through. I had several "mental breaks." My two older kids have BPD. One is medicated and the other is not. I didn't realize it at the time, but I watched my mother passively kill herself. She was an alcoholic and towards the end, she neglected her health and eventually died. I feel guilty about it because I feel I contributed to it. (We were estranged when she passed)

I don't have a lot of words of wisdom, but I can tell you-in spite of all the obstacles, I have great kids. They all graduated, they all went to college. Some have their shit together and some are hanging on by their teeth. I take the "wins." I feel bad about the losses. There were times that I truly thought I could not handle another issue that crushed me. BUT- I would do it all over again.

Please feel free to ask my anything. I will answer as best as I can. I have probably dealt with it (seriously, I have lived a lot of life in my 51 years) Please hang in there, I understand and I don't judge.
 
J

Jules5

Well-known member
Joined
Jan 27, 2019
Messages
1,742
Location
Florida
Welcome to the forum Kittenvondoom. I also raised children with mental health issues Severe at times. I walked out on my marriage and 2 children and then became involved with a real violent person in which I had two kids with. All my children our adults now except the one here with me is 15. My kids turned out okay. Successful. My son at home is doing well. He has his moms nervous condition. He just started High School and is having a hard time adjusting. A normal thing for kids especially since he transferred to this new school and knows no one.

As far as having kids with mental illness-Like Kitten said you put your mental illness aside but their are times it comes out. Most of my friends have never had children. So this made life hard for me as they did not understand you can not just drop your kids off at a dog kennel and go have a day out. I am a single mom now. I do have a support system of one person. My family gave up on me due to my mental health violent outbursts. I wish I could have changed myself. But mental health issues never go away. My brain is wired differently.

Kids our a tough life with mental health issues. Life is hard itself with mental issues. As far as having kids I am not the worst parent on the block. Even if what I know now about my mental health (it took years of therapy), I still can not say my children would and are not effected by my issues. It is a hard decision just have a lot of supports in place AwkwardAngela. No Fears No Worries You can do whatever you set you mind to do. Los of blessing's henceforth Jules
 
J

Jules5

Well-known member
Joined
Jan 27, 2019
Messages
1,742
Location
Florida
Hey Jules! I'm in Florida too!
I live on the East Coast North of Tampa, Florida. I was just praying today for some rain. It has not rained here forever. We did not even get any of Hurricane Dorian's rain. What part of Florida are you from?

I live in a rural area which is awful for my depression. I lived on St Pete Beach for 7 years and it was always so busy and everything was convenient. Now I have horses for neighbors. It is very quiet here and I love that. I have changed quite a bit sense moving here in the woods. I love nature but with my medications and depression I stay indoors for the most part.

How are you doing? Everything okay? I never knew I had a mental problem till I moved up here. I went all radical blew off my family and friends and now I just am alone. I use to love the tourist on the beach they were always so happy and full of joy. The area I live in now is all Rednecks-which is okay But they love to shoot off guns. I just went outside for a cigarette and one of my neighbors in the middle of the afternoon is shooting his gun. We have the KKK up here too Lots of them. So I know to mind my own business. No hope of really making friends.

Well enough of my story and whining. Hope all is well with you No Fears and No Worries Jules
 
W

Winterviolet

Member
Joined
Oct 3, 2019
Messages
9
Location
Florida
Hi from Florida! I'm KittenVonDoom and I have BPD, Anxiety and General Depressive order. I am working very hard to get myself well. I'm getting there slowly. I can make it through the day without a crying jag-So I'll count that as a win! I've been married for almost 20 years and I have 4 adult children. I have 2 granddaughters.

I spend my time doing crafts and I love to color.

I am glad to be here to talk with people who know what I am going though.

To everyone-Keep up the good fight. You are stronger than you think.
Hope you are doing well today, if you ever need to talk about anything just send me a message
 
KittenVonDoom

KittenVonDoom

Member
Joined
Oct 2, 2019
Messages
19
Location
hobe sound, fl 33455
I'm sorry I didn't thank everyone for the nice wishes. I'm in a "low" phase right now. It's taking a lot to care about things right now. Thank you everyone!
 
charlie311

charlie311

Active member
Joined
Oct 27, 2019
Messages
28
Location
South America
I'm sorry I didn't thank everyone for the nice wishes. I'm in a "low" phase right now. It's taking a lot to care about things right now. Thank you everyone!
I'm glad you're here. Take all the time you need; people here understand. By the way, I'm a huge freak when it comes to doggies. Is the fella or lady featured with your posting part of your family? If so, could you give them a kiss on the snout for me? Thanks.
 
KittenVonDoom

KittenVonDoom

Member
Joined
Oct 2, 2019
Messages
19
Location
hobe sound, fl 33455
I'm glad you're here. Take all the time you need; people here understand. By the way, I'm a huge freak when it comes to doggies. Is the fella or lady featured with your posting part of your family? If so, could you give them a kiss on the snout for me? Thanks.
Oh you got it! He is the 2nd love of my life. I am so grateful he's in our lives. 20191024_233715.jpg
 
Thread starter Similar threads Forum Replies Date
MissFrost Introduce Yourself 4
S Introduce Yourself 4
J Introduce Yourself 4
E Introduce Yourself 21
B Introduce Yourself 3
Top