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Hello everyone. I’m an only parent of a 22 yo son who was diagnosed with extreme bipolar at age eight.

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I just can’t take anymore of his abuse. He’s killing me, but couldn’t care less. He gave me a black eye the other day because I didn’t have the food he wanted when he walked in my door at midnight. The cabinets and frig were full of food, just not the specific food he wanted at that moment. I’m a prisoner in my own home. I’m broken and battered and beaten down. It never ends. I video tape his behavior because I’m afraid something will happen and no one will know what really happened unless I do. He slams my camera to the floor constantly. Trying to break it, has broken many cameras like this, destroys my property, my home, in rage filled out of control violent lashing out. The local police know him well. He’s been admitted to psychiatric hospitals 3 times in 3 years on 5150. He in intense outpatient therapy right now, but never takes the prescribed medication appropriately or as prescribed, sabotaging his doctors treatment plan. I don’t want to be forced to file a restraining order against him because he has no where else to go, but I’m dying more and more everyday from the chronic stress and hostile environment. It been affecting my own health so negatively, causing me to have suicidal ideations. I’m under treatment myself now for major depression. I’ve been his only parent, supporting him his whole life, but I cannot take this anymore.
 
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I'm sorry to hear about your terrible situation, being his only parent but this seems like a job for the cops.

However, I must ask whether you have done something in the past to provoke his present behaviour, like physical abuse towards him. You say he was hospitalized to psychiatric hospitals 3 times in 3 years. How many of those were voluntary? If some weren't, does he bear a grudge towards you or the authorities for them? If you want to resolve this amicably with him, you have to try to get into his mind.
 
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I’m so sorry for the predicament your in but bipolar is no excuse for aggressive behaviour. This sound much more like a behavioural problem. You say he’s been diagnosed since eight. What happened to him to get such a serious diagnosis at such a young age. It does sound more of behavioural problem he’s having than a MH one. It seems as if he has no boundaries as to what is acceptable behaviour. I’m sure you love your son but he can’t carry on like this. What would happen if he attacked a stranger! He would be arrested and locked up. The next time he assaults you , you must phone the police and let him face the consequences of what he has done.
Sorry if this sounds harsh but if your frightened of him you need to take some action.
Daf:hug:
 
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I agree with everyone else, the cops need to get involved, and also do you have kids and if so its setting a bad example to them :hug:
 
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