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SC1106

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Hi All!

I feel like I've probably had mental health issues since I was child, I'm very good at supressing my feelings and putting on a 'show' all the time to pretend I'm ok but recently it's become very hard to keep my thoughts supressed. I know it's not a good way of dealing with things but it's always the way I've been and to be honest, I'm struggling at the moment. I don't want to tell my friends and family because I'm scared of being seen as weak, which I know is probably stupid but that's how I feel. So hopefully I'm here to talk about what's going on in my mind and try and help myself and others around me.

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Roseessa

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Hi,
I hope this forum helps, and I am just going to start your time here by saying YOU ARE NOT WEAK, at all. So lets hopefully try and get that thought process out your mind.
 
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its_cricket

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I know exactly what you've been through, and there was a time when I was too scared to tell my friends and family out of fear of rejection or being seen as weak. But you're not weak. The way you keep going even in the face of those thoughts and feelings makes you strong. :)
 
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Alladyn1919

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Don't tell your family and least of all to your "frriends" about your mental health issues unless it becomes necessary and unavoidable for some specific reason in some rather unusual situation.
First.Your family may be supportive at first after some serious quarrel, argument, they maybe supportive no more and may use in the future your problems against you.Such things happen all too often.You will be at the mercy of your family menmbers.
Second.Some member/members of your family ,even if still on good terms with you ,may casually spread "great news" to other people .And you will lose the status of having no mental issues once and for all.
If you need and may benefit from MH treatment seek information about it as anonymously as you can and treatment as furtively as possible and affordable,in another town or if you live in large town in far region of that town, etc.Disregard the advises of being open in such activities, often offered unfortunately on this forum.
Such advises are products of either impaired judgement or maybe even of malicious intent, or both.
You will be in huge disadvantage if your "case" would become known to the public.
 
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Alladyn1919

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Don't tell your family and least of all to your "frriends" about your mental health issues unless it becomes necessary and unavoidable for some specific reason in some rather unusual situation.
First.Your family may be supportive at first after some serious quarrel, argument, they maybe supportive no more and may use in the future your problems against you.Such things happen all too often.You will be at the mercy of your family menmbers.
Second.Some member/members of your family ,even if still on good terms with you ,may casually spread "great news" to other people .And you will lose the status of having no mental issues once and for all.
If you need and may benefit from MH treatment seek information about it as anonymously as you can and treatment as furtively as possible and affordable,in another town or if you live in large town in far region of that town, etc.Disregard the advises of being open in such activities, often offered unfortunately on this forum.
Such advises are products of either impaired judgement or maybe even of malicious intent, or both.
You will be in huge disadvantage if your "case" would become known to the public.


Sorry for some errors.It should have been "Your family membersmay be supportive at first but after some serious quarrel,argument, they may be supportive no more......."
I should also add that there may be some financial, inheritance and various other issues in the future and you will place yourself in inferior position to your family, etc.You may become a subject of blackmail in some circumstances,etc in the futurre if you are successful in hiding your problems from the public.
As to your "friends" there isn't even something to discuss.Somebody is your friend now and your anemy for some reason tomorrow.
 
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its_cricket

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I respectfully disagree with the above reply. I think it can be very useful to tell your friends about these kinds of things because it's useful to get things off your chest and get advice when you're struggling and you're in between therapy sessions. I think it's a little bit unhealthy for your mind to believe that your friends aren't really your friends in this scenario. If you're struggling, they can help you. Your friendship could become stronger. And even if they don't know how to help, they can be there with you while you experience things so you know you're not alone. Isolation is brutal. It can make you think things you wouldn't normally think of, and if you have anxiety or depression, it might skyrocket and make things worse in the end.

There's also nothing wrong with admitting to people that you need help or that you have a problem. You're not crazy, and you don't need to hide from the world. Keeping your case quiet and trying to hide even more than you already are can cause serious problems.

As for your parents, it depends on the state of your family. Like Alladyn1919 said, there's so many variables when it comes to family. They can accept you, but they can just as easily reject you. I hate to say that, but in some cases, it's true. So if you don't want to tell your family in fear of rejection, that's okay. I know I've been there, and it was really difficult to get my family to come around. Sometimes they still say things that are hurtful.

I would say evaluate each friendship or relationship, and decide if telling someone is something you want to entrust these people with. If not, that's okay. But again, isolation is extremely brutal.

(P.S. I just want to say I have no ill intent towards Alladyn1919. I'm just stating a difference of opinion, that's all.)
 
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