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MusicSuffolk
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Hi
I'm not sure if I'm in the right place ! Especially as mine is a relationship issue. Not getting on with the wife I guess you'd say ! And I don't think I'd be here except for a an 'episode' which happened 18 months ago when my wife had a strange and for me scary period.
Maybe this is not the place to air it. - and maybe I should be in a different section?
Anyway, I can only describe the 'episode' as being 'paranoia'. My wife thought the neighbours were 'out to get her'. It started off that she said she heard them talking about her in the garden. This carried on to the point where she claimed she could hear their voices in the house, even though they are detached properties with no windows open and it was impossible. This developed into thoughts that she was being followed (she went to the Police with this who dismissed it out of hand). And even more frightening for me she said that when she was in bed she felt her body was being 'zapped by rays from next door' (through the walls) even though I was lying next to her and felt nothing.
There is alot more to it and it got worse and worse, and she was convinced all sorts of things were going on even though they were completely irrational. My 2 sons and I tried hard to sympathise. But she is very stubborn. Finally, she was persuaded to see her GP. I suspect I have not been told exactly what the GP said, but apparently it was an 'anxiety' attack and she just needed to take some herbal tablets to calm her down (seems an unlikely treatment!).
There is much more to this episode. But just to say it left me sca
red and worried. And what's worse, there has never been any 'closure'. I made her promise to tell me if there was any repeat, but I don't think she will.
And there seems alot of 'denial' in our relationship now. Simple things such as "Oh, you left the lounge light on all night" - "No I didn't - I couldn't have done, what are you talking about?"
How do I handle that??
Anyway - maybe someone can kindly tell me where to air this in the forum, or where else I should look.
Can I also just say I have suggested we both try some professional help but she won't hear of it.

I'm not sure if I'm in the right place ! Especially as mine is a relationship issue. Not getting on with the wife I guess you'd say ! And I don't think I'd be here except for a an 'episode' which happened 18 months ago when my wife had a strange and for me scary period.
Maybe this is not the place to air it. - and maybe I should be in a different section?
Anyway, I can only describe the 'episode' as being 'paranoia'. My wife thought the neighbours were 'out to get her'. It started off that she said she heard them talking about her in the garden. This carried on to the point where she claimed she could hear their voices in the house, even though they are detached properties with no windows open and it was impossible. This developed into thoughts that she was being followed (she went to the Police with this who dismissed it out of hand). And even more frightening for me she said that when she was in bed she felt her body was being 'zapped by rays from next door' (through the walls) even though I was lying next to her and felt nothing.
There is alot more to it and it got worse and worse, and she was convinced all sorts of things were going on even though they were completely irrational. My 2 sons and I tried hard to sympathise. But she is very stubborn. Finally, she was persuaded to see her GP. I suspect I have not been told exactly what the GP said, but apparently it was an 'anxiety' attack and she just needed to take some herbal tablets to calm her down (seems an unlikely treatment!).
There is much more to this episode. But just to say it left me sca

And there seems alot of 'denial' in our relationship now. Simple things such as "Oh, you left the lounge light on all night" - "No I didn't - I couldn't have done, what are you talking about?"
How do I handle that??
Anyway - maybe someone can kindly tell me where to air this in the forum, or where else I should look.
Can I also just say I have suggested we both try some professional help but she won't hear of it.
