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daydreamsandicecreams

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Hi everyone,

I’m not sure where to begin, so I guess I’ll just start? Long story short is that my boyfriend works in an office (we’ve been together for 3 years). He works with a lot of women (most have boyfriends) but there’s one in particular which I just don’t like? She tags him on Facebook memes, and they talk on Instagram. I’m not sure why but the thought of this woman talking to my bf just annoys me? It causes me great anxiety about what if’s and maybes. It’s driving me into a pit. Maybe I’m just being irrational, but I want to stop feeling this way because it’s just eating away at me slowly. I’m not proud of these feelings, maybe it’s because I’m not where I want to be.

I have a very low self-esteem and I’m working on this, I guess all it needs is time? I just needed to vent and have my feelings be heard. If you have any advice to offer that would be lovely, but if not thanks for reading x
 
Foxjo

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Hi
This is a tricky one because sometimes your instincts are right and sometimes they can be way off track on the paranoid line!

i have been there too. what i did was try and rationalise my thoughts. What evidence did i have that he was being unfaithful apart from tags/instagram? Does he hid his online activity? does he have passwords on his phone and take it everywhere with me? does he talk about her all the time?

I think if he wants to be friends with her you will have to accept it. Remember its you he comes home to at the end of the day not her. its you he is emotionally attached to. I know thats hard when you suffer from low self esteem.

Perhaps ask your gp to refer you for some therapy, that can really help you find your self worth.

Sorry if i cant be much help
hugs
Fox
 
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