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Health anxiety becoming severe!

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Han1318

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So basically as in the title my health anxiety is becoming severe. I've always been a little anxious regarding my health but I'd say the past few months have seen me go from bad to worse.
I have tingling, numb patches (which aren't actually numb when I prod them) headaches, neck pain, general loss of appetite the list goes on & on!
Now my absolute biggest fear is dying & leaving my kids. My obsession at the moment is cancer & I'm constantly scanning my body for symptoms! Then I start to think about diseases like MS & worry over that! These thoughts are controlling 95% of my thoughts. It has become mentally exhausting.
So I literally had a whole range of blood tests done a couple of months ago which were fine. The GP said anything sinister would show up but referred me to a neurologist for tingling. She did a few little tests then said she'd refer me for a scan on my neck! I questioned her but she wouldn't give any indication of what it could be so naturally I came out of there in a complete state & have remained that way for over a week!
I need this anxiety to stop it's affecting my whole life. Even my 5 year old is asking me what's wrong! I feel terrible that she's noticed I'm not right.
Has anybody overcome this??? Or are any of you suffering like I am? Any advice?? I feel like I'm completely loosing it. I've been referred to talking therapies but right now I honestly can't see how it will help me!
 
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Hi, I suffer really badly with health anxiety, going through a really bad patch at the moment. I had hypnosis and they think it almost certainly stems from childhood (my Dad was a chronic worrier). I wish I could tell you that I’ve found an answer to it but so far I haven’t. All I can say is that you’re definitely not alone. I strongly believe that the Internet hasn’t helped. By the way, don’t google, very rarely helps and often makes things worse.
 
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Same here, my mum was & still is a worrier! She suffered from health anxiety pretty badly. She constantly tells me she regrets the time she spent worrying because she feels like she missed alot of moments while we were growing up...I'm starting to feel that way now with my own children.
Oh I was a Google addict for a long time! I used to spend hours searching symptoms, would even wake in the night, feel a bit off & start searching symptoms. I've been told by the GP to stay off it. I have so far but it's hard. It's like I try to seek reassurance when actually it makes the situation 100 times worse.
 
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I often think about how much of my life I’ve lost to the constant worry. One doctor told me that constantly seeking reassurance feeds the anxiety. When you first find something that reassures you it’s like a weight has been lifted but the trouble is it doesn’t last long, then you’re back to worrying about another symptom.
 
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Worrying does not add 1 second to your life!!!
 
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Concrete evidence is what we all need before making decisions that is like a dog chasing his tail around Hugs
 
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I have much more minor health anxieties that sparked in the past few months regarding eating and blood sugar. I am still struggling with it, but one technique I've recently tried is 'catastrophisizing'.

Allow (write down etc) yourself to think of the worst possible scenario, spend some time feeling it each day (15-30 minutes roughly at a particular time of day in the same spot). Try your best during other times to stay in the present and remind yourself that you have scheduled worry time later (that is hard i know!).

After doing this for a week? or two or whenever you feel you are starting to become more desensitized to the anxiety, then try to work on coping techniques -- how would you (or others in event of death) deal with this situation if it were to occur?

Remember those of us with anxiety disorders are really really good at coping, and we would cope if bad things were to happen.

I don't know if this technique will work for you (or me either), but you seem to be willing to try other things, its worth a shot right?

I would try your best to stop testing and doctors after you've explored and ruled out the most common things. I try to remind myself it is 99% likely that what I have (you have) is anxiety, and 1% to be something else. Even if it was something else medical, you will eventually find it and fix it. Almost any serious problem will show up on a standard blood test sooner or later.

Han -- maybe work to try to identify your core fear -- It sounds like it maybe care for your kids if something were to happen to you. Not necessarily dying itself? try to address that fear with any practical solutions you can. Do your children have a godmother/godfather?

Obviously if you can afford to, go to a therapist in cognitive behavior or acceptance based (dialetic) therapy these are very very successful therapy techniques that work for the majority of people. They can help you with all of the above.

I hope that helps! I understand where your at, I was recently there too in a few different ways -- no kids here.
 
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