He lied and flirted with other women, acting manic on medicine

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susana378

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My boyfriend has been taking lamictal for a few months now, when we first got together he cheated and confessed he cheated on girlfriends before but he also lived for a very long time without any meds and while drinking all the time so I read up on hypersexuality and worked through it the best I could with him but I was always asking him questions afraid it would happen again. I believed he was doing better now on the meds, he quit drinking and seemed like he had better impulse control.

I noticed he started spending slightly more but thought not to think too much into it. I had a sense something was off but I also thought I may be thinking into it too much. He seemed like his sex drive was lower and would sometimes say he wasn't in the mood when I was. I saw on his phone that he had been looking at porn in spouts and dating websites and found out he was drinking again too here and there. He also confessed that he will sometimes flirt with people he finds attractive. I was completely hurt because I had always checked in and asked him if he was feeling symptomatic or drinking and he would say no. In that moment I lost faith in everything and questioned everything. I was afraid he slept with someone else but he swears he hadn't but I don't know what to believe or how to get him to be honest and that's the most frustrating part.

I read up on Bipolar a lot and see people describe their hypersexuality as a complete impulse that they cannot control then the next minute I think if he loved me he wouldn't flirt with other girls and seek them out. I'm having trouble wrapping my head around if hypersexuality is a valid reason. Another thing is he is on a 200mg dose of lamictal and recently increased - could he still be manic on that dosage? I want him to get the best treatment but don't know why this isn't working or if he is just lying to me. I feel like I am not special to him because he keeps seeking out people and I feel like I should mean more than them. It feels like he views the world as just a sea of attractive people. I want to work through it but I need honesty and I don't know what to do.
 
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I think when someone is that ill
there is not much room in their heart
to really care about a partner or family member
I have been that way myself in the past

why are you with him, and what used to be special about it
that you consider him your partner ?

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I think when someone is that ill
there is not much room in their heart
to really care about a partner or family member
I have been that way myself in the past

why are you with him, and what used to be special about it
that you consider him your partner ?

:love:
When not manic he's caring and great to be around - interesting, kind, makes me laugh, understands me. Can you really still be manic on a mood stabilizer?
 
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k I understand feeling like that
its going to be very hard though

can you be manic on a mood stabiliser , definitely so

I have had my medication changed about 4 times
now its the best its been but still not perfect

he is probably on the wrong medication
and probably he is not being given any talking therapy either

I think if I were in your position
I would consider writing a letter to his doctor
explaining your concerns

:love:
 
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