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Having a rough time

letmein

letmein

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ho sorry guys, been in a odd way...

I didn't make it to the support group thursday, I was too on edge...... my ex" over spiked me with a text message and i've been living on red bull and zopiclone for 4 days now... which ended up with me have a little accident while out. :(


I have no heard from her now in over 24 hrs.... i'm not even sure if she knows whats going on..

I have just put some chicken in to eat and i've had no realy food since tuesday... just toast tbh.....

my own stupid fault..

since the prozac wa supped four weeks ago i do't feel as low as I was but my head is so fast.... so taking zopiclone too much, thne i feel so sluggish n low i drink red bull... catch 22.

daughter is with me and saw family yesterday... if they only knew the truth..
 
letmein

letmein

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hello folks

how are you?
 
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Nina998

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In the psych ward. ECT starts tomorrow.
 
letmein

letmein

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failed @ getting out to support group today..

found this online..


Know the 12 Suicide WARNING SIGNS

Feeling like a burden

Being isolated

Increased anxiety

Feeling trapped or in unbearable pain

Increased substance use

Looking for a way to access lethal means

Increased anger or rage

Extreme mood swings

Expressing hopelessness

Sleeping too little or too much

Talking or posting about wanting to die

Making plans for suicide


I tick 90% of this as I'm sure a lot of you do....


massive spike from my ex"



i am so useless.
 
letmein

letmein

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hello folks, anyone out there?

how you doing?
 
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Nina998

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Just had my second ECT. Suffering from some memory loss. I am transferred today to a hospital closer to home.
 
letmein

letmein

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let us know how it goes xxx
well I started to run my bath... need to be out in an hour and half.... feel sick as a dog.

never felt scared like this for ages, would have bene easier if I hadn't had hassle from my ex" again today... its all a mess but i need to focus on this lady, its wrong i take my crap to her...
 
Lunar Lady

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well I started to run my bath... need to be out in an hour and half.... feel sick as a dog.

never felt scared like this for ages, would have bene easier if I hadn't had hassle from my ex" again today... its all a mess but i need to focus on this lady, its wrong i take my crap to her...
Okay, Letmein - here's the pep talk from Auntie Lunar :hug:

(1) NO talking about the ex. It will just tell your date that you have unresolved feelings and are not emotionally free...even if everything you say is negative. Conversation no-no.

(2) Relax...this isn't a job interview.

(3) Ask OPEN questions that will keep your date talking:

So...tell me about yourself....

You grew up in Uganda? Fantastic...what was it like...?

If you could choose the perfect day, how would you like to spend it?

That kinda thing. You can gather yourself and smile whilst she thinks about her replies and chats. Closed questions solicit a one-word response - then it feels like your conversation is stilted.

(4) Don't try and impress her - nothing is more endearing than human frailty and humility. Tell her what you're good at - but be comfortable laughing about what you're not good at. People grow closer by trading intimacies - telling her you're naturally untidy and a bit of a scatterbrain won't scare her away - she'll feel special because you felt safe to tell her.

Wishing you a great night - just be yourself and know that the worst case scenario is that you don't have a magic 'spark' between you. Doesn't mean you can't have great fun on the date anyway...or that the world has ended. Think in terms of "could this girl make me happy?" rather than the other way round - that way you'll get her to talk more and feel in control. Don't fear her rejection - you might not want her ;)

Have a great night - wishing you all the good luck in the world. x
 
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