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happy when friends are gone again - normal, introvert or SAD?

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Hi! :)

This is something I've been wondering about for quite a while. I love my friends dearly. Yet, I rarely have moments where I'm thinking: Oh, I wish they could stay longer.
Instead, I usually am happy when I know they will be leaving again. It's not like I don't appreciate their company, I do a lot! I love them. But I also usually don't need to meet friends every day.
I had SAD in the past, I wouldn't say I still have it. Could this be a part of SAD? Or is it normal because I'm an introvert?

Does anyone have a similar experience?

Thank you!
 
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I can feel good when my friends leave, it’s just that I get drained being with friends. So when they leave I can relax again but I enjoy being with people. I just don’t need it all the time and I need time to recharge my batteries again until going out with friends. If I’m out with friends every day, I will feel totally drained and it will put a strain on my mental health instead.

So I think it’s normal for introverts ☺
 
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It is normal if you're strongly introverted to need that time to yourself, though you enjoy company too.
 
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I feel like this a lot, not just with friends but with close family. Can start to wonder when they are going to bed as I want to be alone.
 
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Between normal, introvert or sad-- my vote on what you describe is an introvert.

Introvert's get drained of energy after socializing whereas an extrovert's energy increases when socializing.
 
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It is normal if you're strongly introverted to need that time to yourself, though you enjoy company too.
You are an ambivert...which I personally think is great. Wanting to be alone for long periods of time is fine and perfectly healthy. Some people can't bear being alone. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Just because someone is alone doesn't necessarily mean they are lonely.
 
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I am like that with people in the real world. However I have multiple alters and the only time they can 'come out' or co-host with me is when there's no-one else about. Because it's a very covert and secretive condition no-one else knows. So we have loved lockdown and a whole year to get to know each other without having to conform to societies expectations 'to go out and be sociable' every day (otherwise people think you need locking up!).

My 'inner Twin' is always in the background somewhere and I never get tired of their company, maybe because they instinctively know my needs but dealing with real life people is another matter entirely!
 
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You are an ambivert..
Just about everybody is, really. The idea that you are either extroverted or introverted isn't that meaningful except to say you tend to be one way more often than the other. Nobody is 100 percent anything though.
 
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Just about everybody is, really. The idea that you are either extroverted or introverted isn't that meaningful except to say you tend to be one way more often than the other. Nobody is 100 percent anything though.
Exactly.

The concept of 'The Gunas' from Yoga/Hinduism says we are all fluctuating between 3 qualities.. Satva, rajas and tamas. One of the main goals of yoga is to increase the satva quality in us.

That was a bit of a deviation but learning about how we work is helpful with self improvement and personal growth. Same with learning about the brain and how it works and deals with stress.
 

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