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I really want to move away from everything I have and everyone I know and have start a fresh, has anyone else tried this and did it help or will I just take my problems with me.
I only have bad memories where I live now and I feel totally isolated because my family don't have anything to do with me (narcissistic mother) and I only have one friend but she isn't really my type.
I've suffered with anxiety and depression all my life and I find having friends hard work because of my upbringing i expect.
I've always dream't of moving to the isle of wight. I've holidayed there many time and I always feel so much more relaxed over there. I know a holiday is different to living somewhere and I'm worried that I wont feel happy when I get there and my problems will follow me.
I will be moving alone, well just me and my dog. Am I mad to attempt it, has anybody moved away and found they were happier.
I feel its my last chance.
 
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Why not try it? If you could find a place to live at the Isle Of Wight for you and your dog it could be a happy fresh start, join some kind of group there maybe to meet some friends
 
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I can understand your concerns. I dream of moving away all the time. But I'm so scared of doing it alone! I think it would be good for me to escape the constant reminders of bad memories here and make a fresh start, but I worry that I'll feel even more isolated in a place where I know absolutely nobody. Or create bad memories there also!
 
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I can understand your concerns. I dream of moving away all the time. But I'm so scared of doing it alone! I think it would be good for me to escape the constant reminders of bad memories here and make a fresh start, but I worry that I'll feel even more isolated in a place where I know absolutely nobody. Or create bad memories there also!
They are my worries too but I just don't know how I can feel worse than I do now.
 
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They are my worries too but I just don't know how I can feel worse than I do now.
That's a fair point. And if you always feel relaxed there, it's likely that you will feel better.
 
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you could check out what kind of mental health services they have over there
see if it makes a complete package for you

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That's a fair point. And if you always feel relaxed there, it's likely that you will feel better.
Its just a huge decisions to make, especially being alone there with anxiety and depression. I just wish I knew what to do
 
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you could check out what kind of mental health services they have over there
see if it makes a complete package for you

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Thanks, I did look a while ago to see what services they have there, I don't think it was a lot.
 
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Its just a huge decisions to make, especially being alone there with anxiety and depression. I just wish I knew what to do
Yes, I can understand the dilemma. I have anxiety too, and I'm not sure I could cope with a big move on my own. I moved 5 years ago, but it was only to the other side of town with my then-partner's help. It's a big life change, and even people without mental health problems find it stressful!
 
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I think it depends on if you are ready to confront your issues. I did it and found first few months really hard, you are alone, no one to distract you from your own thoughts and issues. For me, it was what I needed, I had been in therapy for years, I needed to put it into practice. It was a lot of hard work, very up and down moments, a lot of sleepless nights etc. However I came through it stronger, found the space away from family and friends made me evaluate those relationships, got closer to some kept away from others.
I think if you move somewhere key thing is have a purpose of being there whether that's a job, a hobby, education etc, something to give you a bit of routine and a reason to get up for. Good luck in whatever you decide.
 
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I really want to move away from everything I have and everyone I know and have start a fresh, has anyone else tried this and did it help or will I just take my problems with me.
I only have bad memories where I live now and I feel totally isolated because my family don't have anything to do with me (narcissistic mother) and I only have one friend but she isn't really my type.
I've suffered with anxiety and depression all my life and I find having friends hard work because of my upbringing i expect.
I've always dream't of moving to the isle of wight. I've holidayed there many time and I always feel so much more relaxed over there. I know a holiday is different to living somewhere and I'm worried that I wont feel happy when I get there and my problems will follow me.
I will be moving alone, well just me and my dog. Am I mad to attempt it, has anybody moved away and found they were happier.
I feel its my last chance.
I’ve just done this a few months ago for the same kind of reasons.
it’s been nice being somewhere new and away from all the bad memories and I wouldn’t move back. But I do feel really isolated and lonely as there’s literally no one I know here, but then I’ve never been a sociable person so 🤷🏼‍♀️
 
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I’ve just done this a few months ago for the same kind of reasons.
it’s been nice being somewhere new and away from all the bad memories and I wouldn’t move back. But I do feel really isolated and lonely as there’s literally no one I know here, but then I’ve never been a sociable person so 🤷🏼‍♀️
I really hope that you will be happy and I hope you will find people that you can connect with. I understand how hard that is to do. I really wish I knew what would be best for me. Im going to give myself a bit more time to see if moving away will be the right thing for me.
Like you i don't have anything to keep me in the place i live now, so what have i got to loose.
If you need someone to talk to, you always contact me. I might talk crap sometimes but I mean well :)
 
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