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Guilt, shame, regret

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MoonShade

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I realized that I have created a lot of the pain and turmoil and pain in my life, especially by responding to imagined abandonment, and I don't know what to do...

I feel so much self loathing that I want to sh because I feel like I deserve pain and suffering and I am trying to have compassion for myself and change my behaviour now that I am aware of it...but the shame and guilt are overwhelming...
 
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Murasakibee

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I realized that I have created a lot of the pain and turmoil and pain in my life, especially by responding to imagined abandonment, and I don't know what to do...

I feel so much self loathing that I want to sh because I feel like I deserve pain and suffering and I am trying to have compassion for myself and change my behaviour now that I am aware of it...but the shame and guilt are overwhelming...
I know shame and guilt are two very powerful emotions, I am sorry you are suffering this way. But you do not deserve to suffer, so please do not sh.

I know you are trying to love yourself, and it's one of the hardest things to do it seems, I still struggle loving myself.

I and so many others are here to listen to you. We have all made mistakes, and we are trying to love ourselves.

You are not alone :)
 
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bpd2020

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I think it shows how far you have come to realise these things. Now that you know what you have been doing you can break the cycle. I think you should feel proud of how much insight you have into yourself.

You do not need any punishment. You need compassion. Be kind to yourself. You deserve kindness.
 
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OCDguy

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I wonder if one possible way forward is learning the lessons, and steering a new path/direction in life...
 
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