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telemetry9

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I recently went to see my GP and was really shocked by her lack of empathy towards my condition. It has emphasized that some kind of damage has been done by the psychiatrist who told me she couldn't help me - and the subsequent report she sent to my GP.
I'm in shock as to my GP's belittling of how depression has effected my life. She said that medication wasn't useful for me and when I told her I felt they had saved my life she sort of chocked in indignation at this response. She then went on to say that she felt I should be back at work.
All of this is in the context of living with many episodes of depression and constant Disthymia over the last 20 years. I have at times managed to run my own business and have also done voluntary work but have been without work for the past 5 years. It has gotten harder as I have become older to fight the symptoms and live with the illness i have. I tried to tell her that violence in the past has also made my social anxiety difficult to live with or to walk past people in the street.
I feel that my GP now dislikes me and would rather see me in a hole in the ground rather than be an inconvenience to her. I feel sick that she then told me about patients of hers who are from eastern europe and have watched their family being killed in front of them or patients she sees who have been killed by paramilitary groups. She was basically saying - "you think you have problems" I think she was giving me a context of suffering and this made me feel even more like a hanger on and about as small.
In short; after the awful experience with the psychiatrist and my deteriorating relationship with my GP - I'm thinking i've come to the end of the road. I feel I am being targeted because of the long term nature of my depression and anxiety. My failure to properly communicate the full effects of living daily with this illness is probably the cause and I'm blaming myself for that also. But I feel desperate and angry at being treated in this way when I hardly ever see my GP or ask for help. I just don't know what has happened but I just can't stop thinking about the things she said on Friday and how little she seemed to think of me.
I wonder if anyone can help me or give me an idea of how I can "right" my name amongst people who seem to think so little of me for having depression. My worse nightmare has come true.
 
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Dollit

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First of all I would change my GP. I don't think it matters what has brought about the change but something has changed and it is no longer a viable working relationship. You do have a right to see what the psychiatrist wrote to the GP - I get all letters about me written to me and then my GP gets a copy.

Yes there are atrocities committed everyday in the world but not all mental illness has a traceable history or an explanation. It doesn't help you cope with your depression knowing that people have been through worse things.

Have you thought of writing down your experience in a logical sequence, dates, times etc and using that as a basis to move forward?
 
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Heard a rumour that psychiatrists are getting rid of people to make room for the personality disorder people they're now required to treat under the new mental health act

Without a specialist opinion in support drs are free to do what they like

They've tryed to close my case, i'm worried what happens in oct when unless your on an enhanced CPA CPAS will cease.

I'm also worried about the benefit changes and what could happen if i haven't the proffessionals to produce references in triplicate.

Remember yrs ago been rediagnosed one women gp called me a bum that seemed to be the new diagnosis

The political climate is now getting people off the sick and into work
 
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telemetry9

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I got really upset today - incredibly angry at what had happened on Friday and it seemed to hit home today. It keeps going over and over in my head. Some family came over to see if I was OK as they knew something was wrong.
Thank you both for your advice and help.
I just feel pretty sick and tired. I'm not sure what I would have done if my family hadn't been here to help me. I just felt I couldn't continue anymore.
I will think about writing stuff down Dollit. Thank you both.
 
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Dollit

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If you want a good vent off forum Robert just send me a pm. :hug:
 
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I'm so sorry Telemetry9, to hear of the horrendous experience you've had at the hands of the 'so called professionals'. As Dollit said, you should not let this go unquestioned, you have rights that have been violated. Just this week, up here in Glasgow, our health minister, Nicola Sturgeon, opened a new Mental Health Hospital and stated that for too long, Mental Health has been the cinderella of the NHS and that this must not continue. Of course this school of thought should go right through the UK and the very least we should expect is that all professionals should be trained to treat their clients with dignity and respect, after all they're paid a great deal to do so.
Telemtery9, I reiterate what I said on another thread, and also empathise with your situation as I've had similar experiences with my GP. Unfortunately the doctors cannot always cure us therefore we're subject to the possibilty that we may be malingerers or even the simple answer that we may never recover from our conditions, and that would never do, think of the burden on the NHS!. I tried to change my doctor but in Glasgow it seemed nigh impossible to move gp's unless your address changed also. In my case it was due to the fact that I wanted to be put on a list to see a clinical psychologist, I knew I need this but my doc's attitude was that I put what was a horrendous childhood behind me and move on, 'after all,' she said, 'thats life'!! Thankfully,through my own efforts, I'm now getting the help, and my psycholgist has said that its entirely appropriate that I am there and contacted the doc to inform her also. Dont give up telemetry9, you have rights and you are entitled to proper medical help for your condition, contact your local health authority or mp. to inform them of you situation. Good Luck:hug:
 
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telemetry9

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My mistake was looking for a kind of acceptance from my GP of my condition. That was really stupid of me. She has clearly demonstrated her inability to do that. Idiotic of me to suppose she could.
Goes back to the support network you have. I can only think how glad I am to have found this forum and a support group in my local town.
I have a feeling they will become more and more important. I would advise anyone to have the same backup if you can.
 
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telemetry9

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Thank you roxy.

I've learned the stupidity of trying to justify yourself to someone who clearly can't understand. My GP.
I feel so idiotic for trying to justify myself to someone who couldn't hope to understand. For a long time she was my only support and I have put too much focus on her. So her ill placed and rather cruel comments have had a lot of impact on me. I have enabled that in my own insecurity and lack of communicating how my daily life is so seriously effected because of depression etc.. Sad but true.
 
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telemetry your treatment by your gp is just a bloody (restraining myself here) disgrace. Of course an encounter like that is going to have a very negative impact and I think you are coping with it really well - far better than I would.
Whats to say? Any advice sounds like a platitude - but hang in there and keep fighting.
(the trouble with giving advice here is that I am usually aware that I would be pitifully useless at doing what I advise!!!!).

Nick.
 
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It totally disgusts me just how different the treatment is across the country with mental health issues.

My partner sees the GP every week and he's fantastic - I've honestly never met a kinder, more gentle, approachable man in life. He's genuinely interested in our lives and how the problems are affecting me as well as my partner and he takes the time to spell out all the side effects as well as the benefits to any medication he prescribes.

To my mind that's the kind of GP that everyone should have, especially someone with mental illness as it can leave you somewhat frail.

If you were my partner I'd be strongly suggesting you gather yourself up and find the strength to get a new GP. Write down the full implications of your depression and don't hold back. Is there anyone that can go with you to see the new doctor to make sure you get the full story across?

Good luck and I really hope your get the medical treatment you deserve.
 
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telemetry9

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Not great today. Trying to keep myself busy as possible.
i keep getting waves of self doubt and guilt that I am such a fraud.
The thought of trying to explain what has happened seems like a big mess that I can't unravel.
I'm not sure I can explain it. The journey to convince others seems like a very pointless one.
Thank you for your advice - I really appreciate your support.
 
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telemetry9

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I've learned a very big lesson.
I'm still in shock and thought I couldn't go on but my family and you guys have helped me a lot. I want to thank you all. This is truly a great forum.
I have to move on now and put this feeling away. I've survived bigger things than this although it feels like such a fatal blow right now.
Time will help me in destroying how big this feels right now.

god bless
robert.
 
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i had a similar experience recently, i went to my GP because of depression and he said he was happy to prescribe me medication but thought it would be better if i saw the local mental health service, however the guy i ended up talking to there just had no respect for the way i was feeling, his final conclusion was "there are some things i'm worried about but i'm not sure" so now i have to see this guy again but the general feel i got from talking to him was that he didn't really see what was wrong, he pretty much belittled how i was feeling. I think that there are just some people who you have to realise won't understand and thus can't really empathise with you, it made me feel a lot worse but since then i've decided i'm not gonna let it get to me and i hope you can do that too :)
 
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