
Blackrat
Well-known member
Bear with me - this might get rambly!
I live in a pretty rural place and getting to my GP is REALLY not easy. But my BF has said that he's getting worried about me (I've been really ill recently) and will start taking me to see the GP if it'll help.
Last time I went (my BF took me then too - he was working much longer hours and he took a day off just to take me up there) the GP was very sympathetic but said she couldn't help me if I couldn't make it to the GP regularly - and at the time I really couldn't
the only other way to get there (bus would mean an overnight stay halfway and there's nowhere to stay there, there's no train-lines around the surgery and a taxi would cost at £40+ each time) I tried changing GPs, but I can't find one that'll take me on because I already have a GP who is closer to me (they *are* closer technically - I just can't get there!) and told me if that was no good to go to the NHS drop-in centre (who don't offer any mental health services - to be fair, when I tried to change GP, I didn't say what my problem was).
Now my BF can take me up there more easilly, I really want to try and get proper help again - but I've had so many problems. There's 4 doctors at my practice, but there's only 3 I'd be willing to see again. One of them was really rude to me a few years ago. My ex took me up there to try and get help for some mental issues and he said he was "going to refer me" to someone else. A few weeks later I had a chest infection and went back - he shouted at me and said I TOLD YOU ONCE - THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. STOP WASTING MY TIME. I just left in tears and didn't go back for months. He never referred me to anyone as far as I know either... So I'm really worried one of the other doctors will do the same.
The other thing is explaining my problem - I have dyspraxia and it makes me pretty clumsy. I fall over a lot and often trip up over my words - especially when I'm stressed. I stammer and slur sometimes and occasionally I seem to say totally the wrong word (I seem to get lost halfway through words.. so rather than just say "hello" it usually comes out as "Hellerrrrrat" or something stupid like that
) and I find it hard enough to talk normally - nevermind when I'm stressed and it's something important. Last time I didn't even go into most of my problems because my words were so all over the place and I was in tears and as nice as the doctor was, she didn't really have enough time for me and I wasn't making much sense.
I'm just wondering (if you didn't want to read all that!):
1) How do you go about telling the doctor what's wrong? I usually go "umm.... err...." a lot and don't really know where to start. I don't want to go in there and just blurt out "HELLO! I'VE GOT MENTAL PROBLEMS!"
2) There are a LOT of things that arn't quite right with me - I'm not sure how much is mental or if it's just one thing wrong with me or lots of things. How do I go about talking about ALL of it (should I?) because I don't talk very well, it takes a long time and I always feel really guilty about taking up too much time
3) How do you stay calm before you go? I'm always scared I'll chicken out and cancel my appointment or leave before I get in there or just get in there and say "oh - nothing's wrong!" and run away
I live in a pretty rural place and getting to my GP is REALLY not easy. But my BF has said that he's getting worried about me (I've been really ill recently) and will start taking me to see the GP if it'll help.
Last time I went (my BF took me then too - he was working much longer hours and he took a day off just to take me up there) the GP was very sympathetic but said she couldn't help me if I couldn't make it to the GP regularly - and at the time I really couldn't

Now my BF can take me up there more easilly, I really want to try and get proper help again - but I've had so many problems. There's 4 doctors at my practice, but there's only 3 I'd be willing to see again. One of them was really rude to me a few years ago. My ex took me up there to try and get help for some mental issues and he said he was "going to refer me" to someone else. A few weeks later I had a chest infection and went back - he shouted at me and said I TOLD YOU ONCE - THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. STOP WASTING MY TIME. I just left in tears and didn't go back for months. He never referred me to anyone as far as I know either... So I'm really worried one of the other doctors will do the same.
The other thing is explaining my problem - I have dyspraxia and it makes me pretty clumsy. I fall over a lot and often trip up over my words - especially when I'm stressed. I stammer and slur sometimes and occasionally I seem to say totally the wrong word (I seem to get lost halfway through words.. so rather than just say "hello" it usually comes out as "Hellerrrrrat" or something stupid like that

I'm just wondering (if you didn't want to read all that!):
1) How do you go about telling the doctor what's wrong? I usually go "umm.... err...." a lot and don't really know where to start. I don't want to go in there and just blurt out "HELLO! I'VE GOT MENTAL PROBLEMS!"
2) There are a LOT of things that arn't quite right with me - I'm not sure how much is mental or if it's just one thing wrong with me or lots of things. How do I go about talking about ALL of it (should I?) because I don't talk very well, it takes a long time and I always feel really guilty about taking up too much time

3) How do you stay calm before you go? I'm always scared I'll chicken out and cancel my appointment or leave before I get in there or just get in there and say "oh - nothing's wrong!" and run away
