- Apr 6, 2017
I hope that someone didnt brainwash her. She may need your prayers since she seems to have lost her personality
Hahaha yup. It was all love forever until it wasn't. She went from warm and sweet to ice cold nearly immediately once she decided she was done with me. After years of knowing and loving each other and being the closest people in each other's lives. I will never understand people who can be like thatI hope that someone didnt brainwash her. She may need your prayers since she seems to have lost her personality
Thank you SO much for the positive words.Heartbreak and losing love is one of the most painful things a person can go through. There is no easy way through other than to be kind and gentle to yourself whilst you are healing. I expect a lot will come up for you in terms of thoughts and feelings - it's all part of the processing. I am sorry that you were dealt with so coldly - you do not deserve that. Love can make us lose our senses and I still believe it is the main reason for living. I struggled with not understanding the point to life without love.
What helped was channelling love into different areas - volunteering, animal rights, causes I cared for. Try to keep love lit in your life in many areas and in time you will find love again. I wish you so much love and so much gentleness as you go through this.
Reading your words makes me almost want to cry. In a good way. Thank you so much. Makes me feel like a little bit less of a faulty person.Four months is still very early. When you love deeply, it can take a lot of time to let that love go, especially when it is so intense and powerful. You obviously feel things very strongly and that is a beautiful trait. It means that when you hurt you hurt more, but when you love you love more. It has a positive and negative side.
Being able to love so deeply, especially in this world, is really quite special and magical. Remember that when you are hurting, on the other side of the hurt is power. Think of all the good that love can do in the world.
Bipolar will definitely intensify things so cut yourself some slack as your mental illness is another issue to contend with. Keep sharing with us, keep getting out how you feel, you will get there one step at a time. And remember grief is not linear so it's okay to go backwards.
I think I just have to get back into my music. The music always had a cathartic effect. But I've been too down lately to want to feel emotion at all.I don't think love stops, but it fades into something manageable. You just have to trust. I never believed it would either, but it does. When you love so deeply, that doesn't disappear. It's natural to dream of her, to crave her like a drug. This will be the hardest part. But it will get easier with time. Just give it time.
A huge thing that will help you is being able to tolerate the ups and downs. To find something, anything, that you can throw yourself into, whether it's a hobby, course, work, counselling, travel, a goal of some kind. You will still process things, but you will also have a course of action to move towards. This progression is healing and gives your mind/heart something to do even as you struggle.
Also, do keep expression. The expression of the pain helps it to heal, like pus from a wound. Let all the ugly painful stuff come out.
Mm you're right. Thanks c:You should be proud that you were able to make the relationship last so long. Some people never had love. It's better to have loved and lost than never to love at all. The love that you had matters, it's just sad that she isn't herself anymore
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