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Diesel1988

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i find that I'm gambling more often, I think it might calm me down, but its only a new addiction. I hate the fact that this week alone I went through a couple hundred, and I tell myself this is stupid, I'm so stupid to get caught up in all this. When ever I sit down I go on my laptop and that feeling of excitement comes over me, where I can't help but gamble. Does any body else feel a compulsion to gamble uncontrollably, any advice, I can't keep doing this!!!
 
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You could disconnect your internet. Or can you block certain sites? i dont know much about computers.
 
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i find that I'm gambling more often, I think it might calm me down, but its only a new addiction. I hate the fact that this week alone I went through a couple hundred, and I tell myself this is stupid, I'm so stupid to get caught up in all this. When ever I sit down I go on my laptop and that feeling of excitement comes over me, where I can't help but gamble. Does any body else feel a compulsion to gamble uncontrollably, any advice, I can't keep doing this!!!
The fact that you said 'new addiction' rang out to me. I've inferred from this, that you have an addictive personality (correct me if wrong!). I have this too.

The bolds stood out here as worrying, especially the second one.

If you are having compulsions to gamble uncontrollably, then unless you have a lot of money (which would only last for a while anyway), then you need to really be looking at this really hard.

In the wrong hands, gambling can be extremely addictive and [mentally] very dangerous. (i.e. for someone who isn't good at gambling)


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You certainly aren't stupid... in fact, it's quite normal to get caught up in it.

What forms of gambling do you do, if I may ask Diesel? Bandits, horses, online casinos, bingo, the weather, any other?
 
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I would imagine you are not alone. There are a lot of gambling websites - and I reckon they make big profits. Nobody really talks about it.
 
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Your broadband provider may provide a filter to block gambling websites, although obviously whilst doing this, in particular if you live alone, the temptation to remove the block may be all too easy.

This may help if you don't live alone and the people you live with, know about your problem.

I know it is related to emotional trauma and it can be the buzz that you cannot quite stop doing, but better addressed earlier, because if it carries on it will ruin your life.

Speaking as one who has seen this happen.

The key thing is admitting to yourself that you yourself cannot control it.

Think by posting that on here is very brave and a big step forward for you and in time you may seek out real life help.

Maybe also a more specialised forum for gambling addictions too and possibly some kind of therapy either group or individual.

Know there is quite a lot out there for this, but if this is beginning to be an addiction, it must be avoided at all costs. Like in the same way a reformed alcoholic can never drink again, ie one drink now and again can restart the addiction.

But yes think you have done the first step by admitting it on here and you can move forward from there.

Best wishes definitely.:)
 
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The fact that you said 'new addiction' rang out to me. I've inferred from this, that you have an addictive personality (correct me if wrong!). I have this too.

The bolds stood out here as worrying, especially the second one.

If you are having compulsions to gamble uncontrollably, then unless you have a lot of money (which would only last for a while anyway), then you need to really be looking at this really hard.

In the wrong hands, gambling can be extremely addictive and [mentally] very dangerous. (i.e. for someone who isn't good at gambling)


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You certainly aren't stupid... in fact, it's quite normal to get caught up in it.

What forms of gambling do you do, if I may ask Diesel? Bandits, horses, online casinos, bingo, the weather, any other?

I play bingo occasionally with my mom, usually in the fall, I play lottery tickets every week, and I go to the casino maybe a couple times in six month period, but I recently started to play online casino games, and instantly I feel like I need to gamble, like I'm going to win big or something, but I understand the reality of winning big is not in my favor. I feel that my MH issues are intertwined with my compulsions and impulses. Its very difficult when dealing with gambling, MH issues, substance relapse, and MH medications that medicate my mind a little too much. I just get confused with all my issues.
 
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I play bingo occasionally with my mom, usually in the fall, I play lottery tickets every week, and I go to the casino maybe a couple times in six month period, but I recently started to play online casino games, and instantly I feel like I need to gamble, like I'm going to win big or something, but I understand the reality of winning big is not in my favor. I feel that my MH issues are intertwined with my compulsions and impulses. Its very difficult when dealing with gambling, MH issues, substance relapse, and MH medications that medicate my mind a little too much. I just get confused with all my issues.
Will answer tomorrow. But I think that you recognise all of this, is a very good thing. Most 'normal' gamblers haven't got a clue how much trouble they're in. I think many people classed as 'MI' are far more perceptive and intelligent. The problems occurs when circular issues intertwine, exactly like you say.
 
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Which a friend of mine was as knowledgeable and open to the fact that he cannot control his gambling as yourself Diesel and am guessing he is a lot older than yourself.

He is 50. Problem is he actually is unaffected financially still, only because there is money in his family, but he still hasn't ever admitted he can control it. He has come into money himself in his own right recently and has lost £12,000 in six months - and as say even that is not quite jolting him out of complete denial, as parents still have money, but one day soon, obviously another inheritance and it will disappear very quickly.

The more money he has the quicker it disappears and some on top of that - ie stakes get higher and higher.

Fruit machines only ever pay out 70% anyway - feed in drink and it is a winner for landlords etc. Guaranteed obviously.

I have seen him on the roulette machines in bookmakers. Those machines are incredibly dangerous and some online fruit machines are hundreds of pound a spin. I just think these website owners are bordering on criminal.

Because there will always be compulsive gamblers who will never ever realise they cannot ever control it within there own means.

I think you have admitted online to this already and that is a very big step forward.

I hope you don't lose the impetus of that.

Gathering you in states, ie calling autumn - fall, here in UK, gamblers anonymous and gambleaware are the two main helps, but as said if not ready admit face to face, there are websites where help is available too.

Hope you do it, it will probably an incredibly important thing you will be doing.

My friend may seem like a bit of a waster for how I describe him, but he is sadly a very caring and kind man, however the gambling, which everytime he does it, ie for the buzz, but then inevitably over time, he loses loads, has destroyed him.

He lives with elderly and unwell parents now, and always always he is ridden with guilt - he has had periods throughout his life where he has gone years without leaving his home without getting extreme anxiety.

Hopefully the example of my friend will spur you into seeking real help. I think you will get help, because you are already admitting it early on.

I know you cannot help it, ie the buzz, but yes internet gambling is even more dangerous ie very high stakes, so if you are going to use the net at home, block them most definitely and maybe write on a forum when you are thinking of doing it, instead of actually succumbing to urge, ie a kind of safety mechanism.

But yes sure you quite young, so recognising you have a problem, you are already miles down the line of my friend. So very best wishes, absolutely.:)
 
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I used to be a manager for Ladbrokes. We had this term 'mug punters' which possibly applies to you. It means gamblers who think they can beat the odds when the truth is they simply cannot. All 'books' are skewed in favour of the bookies. I went on a course to learn how to do that. Casinos do the same thing. They will always make a profit and they make that profit out of mug punters.

Yes, online poker can be profitable for very skilled players - but have you seen the number of people who play? Have you imagined how tiny the percentage of online poker players who actually make money from it is?

Wake up. If you persist with this addiction, you are just being used. The bookies will screw you and wring you out until you are completely dry. Give it up...totally...and if you can't do it alone, get help.
 
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gamcare. nearly saved my life at one point.
although, as I'm feeling worse - I'm turning back to gambling myself, thankfully I have a lot of blocks in place and the maximum I can gamble away now is £25 a week.
 
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I used to be a manager for Ladbrokes. We had this term 'mug punters' which possibly applies to you. It means gamblers who think they can beat the odds when the truth is they simply cannot. All 'books' are skewed in favour of the bookies. I went on a course to learn how to do that. Casinos do the same thing. They will always make a profit and they make that profit out of mug punters.
There are no poor or broke bookies that for sure.