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Emptysilence

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So I have pretty much been a loner my hole life. I have been diagnosed with social phobia. Anyway, I have a hard time understanding people who say they are your friend yet they never call you, never ask or invite you to do anything. How does this constitute friend ship.


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Do you contact them as well? I think people get so wrapped up in their own lives they often forget to contact us. I find I have to reach out more than people reach out to me. But I accept that this is the way of things.
 
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I struggle with this too. The only long-term friendship I've been able to maintain is with my husband. Other friends I've had come and go, but I've tried to accept now that life changes, people change, circumstances change. Maybe friends are not meant to last forever?

I have social anxiety so am reluctant to reach out. My brain tells me that others not contacting me = they don't like me anymore, but I don't think that's necessarily the case. If anything, maybe they've seen me withdraw, slink out without saying goodbye, or avoid an event altogether and assume I don't want to do anything socially.

I don't like having to be the one to reach out, but as I've gotten older I have come to realize that maybe the people on the other end feel the same way? Scared to reach out in case we reject them too? I don't know. It is still hard, and it still hurts. :hug1:
 
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hi ,welcome x
i struggle with friendships too ,they never seem to last ,all of my friends have MH issues and so do i so maybe that is a factor in them not surviving long

welcome to the forum ,i hope you like it here love Lu x
 
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Well for me, I wait for others to make friends with me both offline and online because that way I know that because they made the effort, it's because they want to be friends.
As opposed to me making the move and just being a friend mostly in friends list rather than a real friend.
 
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