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Natalie355

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How do you get out the friend zone with someone when you have social anxiety?
 
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I dont know, let them down gently ?
reduce the intensity and the closeness
and cheerfully walk by and say hello
without stopping to chat maybe ?

:grouphug:
 
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Sorry I didn't explain that very well. I meant I don't want to be friends because I want to be more than friends with him and be in a potential relationship.
 
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oh sorry Natalie !

I think maybe I would say how I feel
because he needs to know so he can make a decision

but then if you feel socially anxious about it, I don know
maybe get some support with it
from a support worker or something ?

:grouphug:
 
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Thanks I want to tell him but I'm terrified I'll lose him as friend as well and he won't be in my life all together.
Also cause of my social anxiety I can't always have a normal conversation let alone a conversation like that in person.

We met on a dating website and I don't think he's done or said anything that makes me think he just wants to be friends but then I don't know if he wants to be more than friends either.

I don't know whether to wait a bit longer and see if the next couple times we meet up we get closer or things stay the same and then decide what to do.
 
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well if you met him on a dating site
chances are he is considering you as a date
I think, well I have not been on dating sites
but I would imagine so

you might well lose him
without it being a reflection on yourself ...

people venture their feelings
not knowing how they will be received
and are free to reject you at any point in the interaction

I would need to talk to someone else verbally
as well as online about it

there is a ' wellbeing hub ' in my town
where I can get a chat with a support worker
because its not easy being rejected

:hug:
 
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why are you worried about going on to the next stage ?
if you are already more than friends

that said you are also making assumptions about what he is thinking
which is something I also do alot
 
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I think I'm just over thinking it too much and I just need to live in the moment not the future.
I need to just work on my social anxiety and if it's meant to be let it happen naturally, don't try and force it too happen. And if it's not meant to be at least I made a new friend out if it.
 
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n yeah if he is the right person
he will be patient with your social anxiety
 
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