
Wynn
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(Sorry - this is a bit of a moan!)
Just ran into my friend that I have been trying to patch up friendship with for the last year. Last time I saw him was just before the summer - stopped by where he works to say that my work hours were changing and I wouldn't be around as much in future, asked how he was etc. He said then that he was not getting depressed as much and hinted that was because he wasn't seeing me as much - I asked him then if he thought that I was making him depressed, and he said yes. I don't know how or why - he wouldn't say, but I said I was sorry I made him feel that way, and wished him all the best. We had a hug - first one in a long time, and said goodbye.
Today when I saw him in a cafe - he knew I was there, but ignored me and sat outside, (there were only 2 other people in the place). I went to say hi as I left - but no response. I asked if he wasn't speaking to me (silly question !), to which he said 'I guess so'. When I asked 'why?' he said he didn't want to talk about it. I put my stuff in the car, but then turned back, I was going to ask him if he would like me to leave him in peace, pretend I didn't know him from now on - I don't like making him sad, or feeling hurt myself for that matter. He just got up and went into the cafe, so I left.
Feel so rotten now - my marriage has split up this year, (but we are still having to share the same house because can't afford to split and kids are in middle of major exams), my best friend died at Christmas, and now I think this friendship has really bit the dust. Feeling so lonely and wondering if I really am the horrible, uncaring person that husband and now ex-friend make me out to be? Feel like hurting myself, but so far managing not to - taking kids out tonight and daughters party on Friday, so trying to concentrate on that. Also have an observation at work tomorrow - I'm a teacher, tho' preparation for that's not going well after this morning - too many tears.
In conclusion - I'm feeling rubbish, and very sad.


Just ran into my friend that I have been trying to patch up friendship with for the last year. Last time I saw him was just before the summer - stopped by where he works to say that my work hours were changing and I wouldn't be around as much in future, asked how he was etc. He said then that he was not getting depressed as much and hinted that was because he wasn't seeing me as much - I asked him then if he thought that I was making him depressed, and he said yes. I don't know how or why - he wouldn't say, but I said I was sorry I made him feel that way, and wished him all the best. We had a hug - first one in a long time, and said goodbye.
Today when I saw him in a cafe - he knew I was there, but ignored me and sat outside, (there were only 2 other people in the place). I went to say hi as I left - but no response. I asked if he wasn't speaking to me (silly question !), to which he said 'I guess so'. When I asked 'why?' he said he didn't want to talk about it. I put my stuff in the car, but then turned back, I was going to ask him if he would like me to leave him in peace, pretend I didn't know him from now on - I don't like making him sad, or feeling hurt myself for that matter. He just got up and went into the cafe, so I left.
Feel so rotten now - my marriage has split up this year, (but we are still having to share the same house because can't afford to split and kids are in middle of major exams), my best friend died at Christmas, and now I think this friendship has really bit the dust. Feeling so lonely and wondering if I really am the horrible, uncaring person that husband and now ex-friend make me out to be? Feel like hurting myself, but so far managing not to - taking kids out tonight and daughters party on Friday, so trying to concentrate on that. Also have an observation at work tomorrow - I'm a teacher, tho' preparation for that's not going well after this morning - too many tears.
In conclusion - I'm feeling rubbish, and very sad.

