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Im really sorry if this isnt posted in the right place, Im new to this.
Please can anyone help me?
My best friend is 21, for as long as Ive known her she has been troubled. She is a self harmer, suffers from panic attacks, smokes weed more than once a day every day, has extremely low self esteem and this all stems from a period of sexual abuse that occured when she was 13 I believe. Despite all this she is on course to graduate university with amazing marks this summer, is absolutely drop-dead gorgeous and is such a rock to me. She works extremely hard on school work but cannot do so without the aid of a smoke as this ables her to calm down long enough to study.
She knows how bad smoking weed is for her and is not proud of it at all, she has mentioned to me on a number of occasions that she is trying to stop smoking but today she seems more desperate than ever especially with finals coming up. The smoking is limiting her oportunities as she really wants to travel but is restricted by limited access to the drug. And if she stops smoking, alcohol takes its place.
I have tried helping in the past with positive motivation as much as I can but I dont really know what Im doing. I know that she has been to a number of different councellors, all of which have seemed to make little difference and has been on anti depressants in the past.
About a year ago she managed to refrain from smoking for a whole week which was a struggle to watch. She was extremely stressed out the whole time but managed to pull though because she didnt have a supply. I know she can do it but I really want to be able to help her as much as I can.
She doesnt self harm as much as she used to, its only every few months. I think its triggered by people criticising her, although Im not sure.
We both dont know where to start, although I know she would never ask for help, which is why Im here. Im sorry for babbling on but I would love some advice.
Thank you so much for reading this x
Please can anyone help me?
My best friend is 21, for as long as Ive known her she has been troubled. She is a self harmer, suffers from panic attacks, smokes weed more than once a day every day, has extremely low self esteem and this all stems from a period of sexual abuse that occured when she was 13 I believe. Despite all this she is on course to graduate university with amazing marks this summer, is absolutely drop-dead gorgeous and is such a rock to me. She works extremely hard on school work but cannot do so without the aid of a smoke as this ables her to calm down long enough to study.
She knows how bad smoking weed is for her and is not proud of it at all, she has mentioned to me on a number of occasions that she is trying to stop smoking but today she seems more desperate than ever especially with finals coming up. The smoking is limiting her oportunities as she really wants to travel but is restricted by limited access to the drug. And if she stops smoking, alcohol takes its place.
I have tried helping in the past with positive motivation as much as I can but I dont really know what Im doing. I know that she has been to a number of different councellors, all of which have seemed to make little difference and has been on anti depressants in the past.
About a year ago she managed to refrain from smoking for a whole week which was a struggle to watch. She was extremely stressed out the whole time but managed to pull though because she didnt have a supply. I know she can do it but I really want to be able to help her as much as I can.
She doesnt self harm as much as she used to, its only every few months. I think its triggered by people criticising her, although Im not sure.
We both dont know where to start, although I know she would never ask for help, which is why Im here. Im sorry for babbling on but I would love some advice.
Thank you so much for reading this x