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Worried-Mum

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Hello

I am a worried-mum, unsure of what support I can give my child. He is struggling to motivate himself/go out. He is blaming us (his parents) for the way his life has turned out.

I have only recently become aware of his struggles and his fear of failing.

Any advice would be very much appreciated.

Worried-Mum
 
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Hi Worried-Mum

Welcome to the forum :welcome:

Can you please tell us a little more about what is happening. Do you have any ideas as to what may be causing these issues? How old is your son?

I look forward to hearing more.
 
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He's 23and feels like everything is over-whelming. He as a large on-line group of people he regularly chats to and a couple of friends who live locally to us.
He is invited out and says yes, but then can not cope with getting washed, dressed and going out.
He didnt complete his uni course and has reapplied to return but now feels that was a mistake.
I want to give him support, but everything I say or do seems to be wrong.
He is undergoing CBT but its early days
 
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Hi Worried mum,
Welcome to the forum
Please don't blame yourself, has he tried any medications? Does he have any diagnosis's ?
Here to listen anytime. Good he's having CBT.
Take care
 
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Is everything over-whelming to you, to him or both of you?

What are your worries about what is happening?

It's great that he is having CBT. It an evidence based therapy which is known to successfully help many people.

He is really lucky having a mum who is so concerned about him. While he might not be responsive to your offers of help at the moment it's important that he knows that you're there and that you're willing to help him. When he is ready, between the two of you you'll find a way to help each other. I say help each other because as a worried mum I'm sure you need some support and I'm sure you'll get some of it from him.

It's really important that you build up some supports around you to help you deal with the situation. Do you have a network of friends and other family members that you can talk to? I imagine you've got lots of questions about why this is happening. Your GP might be able to refer you to a counsellor to help you examine the issues involved.

Young Minds, an organisation which works on young peoples' mental health has a helpline for supporting parents which might be worth calling so you can get some more specialist advice. It's open Mon-Fri 9:30am – 4pm. The number is: 0808 802 5544.

Young Minds publish lots of useful fact sheets. They can be found here: Catalog — YoungMinds Many can be downloaded free of charge, despite the prices being mentioned on that webpage. You just need to click on the view more links to find the download link.

You might find it useful to keep a journal in our journals section. You could use it to record what is going on for you and how you're dealing with it.

Good luck.
 
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welcome to the forum :)
 
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