
jajingna
Well-known member
I wonder about these three main reactions. Maybe there are more types of responses? Which one do you often feel, and what causes it? Are you aware when it happens, or does it occur to you some time afterwards, like hey, I just froze up, or I just fled from that situation? Or avoided it? We could say avoidance is another common response. Or that it is a sort of flight away from something. Or just staying in the comfort zone.
I'm not sure about that fight one. Is that being argumentative or something? Fighting is a type of defense mechanism. I doubt socially anxious people are like to argue with people much, but maybe ? Maybe some are angry types and that anger is kind of how they deal with their own social anxiety?
I'm a freeze or flight kind of person. Sometimes both. Initially I think, that freeze response is triggered first, more often than other types. When I feel that discomfort it happens so quick like a reflex. Then I will probably want out of the situation if possible (a flight reaction). I also avoid situations a lot.
It might help to be aware of these responses as they happen, or as soon as possible. Maybe that can give some idea how often they occur. Could be several times a day.
Then you have the why question. What is the reason for the FFF response? What threat is there? Why do you feel unsafe or in danger?
That's a lot of questions, but this is a complicated issue for me.
I'm not sure about that fight one. Is that being argumentative or something? Fighting is a type of defense mechanism. I doubt socially anxious people are like to argue with people much, but maybe ? Maybe some are angry types and that anger is kind of how they deal with their own social anxiety?
I'm a freeze or flight kind of person. Sometimes both. Initially I think, that freeze response is triggered first, more often than other types. When I feel that discomfort it happens so quick like a reflex. Then I will probably want out of the situation if possible (a flight reaction). I also avoid situations a lot.
It might help to be aware of these responses as they happen, or as soon as possible. Maybe that can give some idea how often they occur. Could be several times a day.
Then you have the why question. What is the reason for the FFF response? What threat is there? Why do you feel unsafe or in danger?
That's a lot of questions, but this is a complicated issue for me.