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Female to Female Bullying

MarlieeB

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Female Bullying - Bullying Statistics


There are many different types of bullying including female bullying. The classic type of bullying includes the mean boy on the playground, but now it is clear female bullying is just as prominent and severe as bullying with males. Female bullying can sometimes even be worse.

With cases of bullying on the rise, it is becoming more apparent than ever that female bullying is just as common as bullying with males. It is a common misconception that boys and teen males are the most dominant types of bullies. In fact, girls can be just as ruthless especially when it comes to the type of bullying that is not as physical. Types of bullying like cyberbullying are often spearheaded by teen girls placing an attack on their peers verbally. However, harsh words, lies and rumors can be just as devastating to a child or teen as being physically attacked. These types of female bullying may include:

Physical bullying and hazing:

In recent news headlines, there have been cases of female bullying where teen girls will physically gang up on one another and attack. This type of behavior has been happening for decades and likely even before that. However, now that bullying is becoming more and more recognized, cases of female bullying have increased. Physical bullying can also include more than just hitting, punching, kicking or otherwise injuring another person. It can also include stealing from another person or damaging their personal property. Types of hazing by forcing others to do something embarrassing or harmful to themselves or others is also another type of physical bullying. While males typically take the wrap for such behaviors, females can also have just as a devastating impact on their peers.

Cyberbullying and verbal bullying:

Females are most typically associated with these types of bullying behaviors. Verbal bullying is also a very common type of bullying that almost everyone is guilty of at some point in time or another. Simple name calling may not be considered a big deal, but it is still a type of bullying. Verbal bullying, whether it is said face-to-face, behind someone's back or over the Internet, can still be devastating to those who are targeted.

Indirect bullying and social alienation:

Although there are no hard statistics to support the number of female bullies versus male bullies, socially speaking, there are certain types of bullying females have a tendency to enact more so than males. One of these types of bullying is indirect bullying. This takes place when a person or group of people spread rumors and stories about a person behind their back. These can be false and malicious attacks. Indirect bullying accounts for about 18 percent of all cases of bullying. Cyberbullying also comes into play with this type of bullying because teens may spread lies or stories about another individual online anonymously. It is still considered bullying. Social alienation is also another type of bullying that females can be responsible for committing. A group of girls may decide to deliberately shun another girl from the group because they are mad at her or find it funny to hurt another person simply because they are different.

Female bullying can be just as common as male bullying although it may take on a different form. Parents should not assume that just because their child is female that they won't have a tendency to become a bully. Be on the lookout that your child is behaving rude and malicious manner by watching how they interact with others. If they show signs of resentment or engage in a power struggle, they might have issues with bullying. Also as a parent, be sure to talk to your child about bullying to ensure they know what bullying is so they don't abuse others in any type of bullying. Putting a stop to bullying behaviors with both female bullying as well as male bullying is the only way to cut down on the amount of children, teens and adults traumatized by bullying behaviors. Talking to your children is the best way to find out if they are having issues with bullying at school, after school or online. Keeping this line of communication open is important because it helps your child to know they can come to for help.

Some of the best ways to prevent bullying of any kind is to help build your child's self-esteem. Children and teens with higher self-esteem and more friends are less likely to become the victims of bullying. Unfortunately there are still many cases of bullycide among teens and children. Bullycide occurs when teens or children commit suicide as a result of bullying attacks. It is up to parents, teachers and other authority figures to put a stop to bullying before it begins so these unfortunate and tragic cases no longer occur.
 

MarlieeB

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It's interesting.

I was searching on the interwebs for something about Male to Male Bullying to counteract what I have posted above and it's near on impossible to find.

Maybe because it's more known as such in the wider world. Some people think that female's don't bullying whether it's physical or mentally. If you think about it how often do you see on the news about two females fighting on the street etc?
 
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I think perhaps female to female bullying is subtler and more emotionally damaging; men tend to just punch each other; it's still nasty, but in the long run easier to get over than the emotional stuff.
 
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I've experienced this. When I was at guides there was this one girl who made me feel uncomfortable and sick. :(
 
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It's only recently that I had my first experience of two girls being horrible to me.
Throughout my life (especially my adolescence) I was bullied by boys and so it surprised me in a way that these girls would be unkind for no reason.

I do think female to female bullying happens - and it happens a lot. My older sister's life was made hell by a group of girls.
I agree with Quickduck in that female bullying seems to subtler (though i'd disagree with the opinion it's more emotionally damaging - i'm completely fucked up as a result of the boys who've bullied me). I think female bullying can be more spiteful and vindictive.

Personally I do think that female bullying is a result of jealousy, whereas boys do it for fun.
 
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I think often boys bullying boys is seen as boys being boys, boys will fight that sort of thing. That's what sprung to my mind as to why there wouldn't be as much information on it, it is more "the norm" of society whereas women should knit and stroke kittens and never say a bad word. If there is a news story about men fighting, it talks about violence etc. If there is a story about two women fighting, the emphasis is on how unladylike women in society are becoming.
 
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Female bullying is much more bitchy, I think. It's words and looks and talking behind backs and nice to your face, which is much more...... harmful I think.
Blokes seem to just have words face to face, or have a fight, and get it all over with. Maybe because women aren't generally as confrontational as blokes, so they don't just have a scrap and forget about it.
 
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I think perhaps the common factor in all bullying is power; or rather the desire to feel powerful. For men, particularly young men, it's about physical power, being able to beat the other guy up. For women it's more about social power, being able to shame, demean and devalue another.
 
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this girl used to bully me (idk if this is bullying but if wasn't very nice as i got in all sorts of trouble) by accusing me constantly of bullying her for about 2 years when i didnt say a word to her except to aplologise for bullying her which i did not do! idk what her problem was, very strange. and no i wasn't ignoring her or anything like that, she had loads of friends and was in the year below me and we had different circles of friends, she would just make up all these things i supposed said to her and about her family.
 
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She probably liked the attention she got by making the accusations and the fact that she could lie about you, make you look bad and get away with it. She was definitely a bully albeit a subtle one. :hug:
 
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I've been bullied by both boys and girls. Boys used to actually hit me. Girls never dared to put their hands on me but they did make fun of my appearance and talk about me behind my back. Girls whom I thought were my friends turned their backs on me and dragged my name through the mud.
 
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