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nicros
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I am having a bad couple of days atm, I am 40 and struggling to look after 2 young kids and my husband who has been on the sick for 8 months now and now needs another op. I cannot see him going back to work this year. We have been together for 10 years and are soul mates but have been arguing because of his constant pain and tiredness (he has a hernia) and my GAD and no family to help us out locally, so I never get a break. I only feel free of stress when I am out with my dog or looking after my rabbits or guinea pigs.
I feel really selfish atm because I desperately want another puppy because I need to be needed. This need is overwhelming and it is not just a whim, I have looked into it thoroughly and have the time and live in a big house in the countryside and don't work so it would be ideal. My kids are 6 and 8 years old and also love animals and really want another one. We have fostered a couple but did not adopt because our dog was nervous of them but I know that a pup is a good option. My dog is 19 months now. It sounds selfish and fickle to my husband because he thinks it will be hassle and expense but having lost my mum when I was 18 and my dad is old and quite ill and my sister is sucicidal and it is only a matter of time for her as she is so ill with alcoholism etc. This is my way of coping I cannot think of anything I would rather have than a helpless puppy looking at me and loving me and not judging me. I have spent the last 2 days in tears and I don't feel able to cope atm as this year has been so hard with my husband and a close friend died in feb, I don't feel I can get out of this feeling this time. I usually pull myself together but I'm scared this time as I am not feeling any better than yesterday. I am on venlafaxine 75mg and I know if I go to the Dr they will put it up but the side effects are not nice and I don't want to do this but it may be my only option as everyone in my family relies on me so I have to keep going, does anyone else ever feel like this? does anyone have 2 dogs and copes still? I feel at a loss and cannot think of anthing but how good I could feel with a new puppy, sorry for ranting on Nicola
I feel really selfish atm because I desperately want another puppy because I need to be needed. This need is overwhelming and it is not just a whim, I have looked into it thoroughly and have the time and live in a big house in the countryside and don't work so it would be ideal. My kids are 6 and 8 years old and also love animals and really want another one. We have fostered a couple but did not adopt because our dog was nervous of them but I know that a pup is a good option. My dog is 19 months now. It sounds selfish and fickle to my husband because he thinks it will be hassle and expense but having lost my mum when I was 18 and my dad is old and quite ill and my sister is sucicidal and it is only a matter of time for her as she is so ill with alcoholism etc. This is my way of coping I cannot think of anything I would rather have than a helpless puppy looking at me and loving me and not judging me. I have spent the last 2 days in tears and I don't feel able to cope atm as this year has been so hard with my husband and a close friend died in feb, I don't feel I can get out of this feeling this time. I usually pull myself together but I'm scared this time as I am not feeling any better than yesterday. I am on venlafaxine 75mg and I know if I go to the Dr they will put it up but the side effects are not nice and I don't want to do this but it may be my only option as everyone in my family relies on me so I have to keep going, does anyone else ever feel like this? does anyone have 2 dogs and copes still? I feel at a loss and cannot think of anthing but how good I could feel with a new puppy, sorry for ranting on Nicola
