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Feeling so violated and confused...

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low stress

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Hi all,
I'm looking for support and to know if this is normal or not. I am a female living in New York. I went yesterday for my first ever full body massage. I am going through a lot right now and I carry all my stress in my back so I wanted to de-stress. I chose to do a 60 minute full body massage. I got fully undressed including my underwear as I thought that is the way it is done. I waited 10 minutes for the masseuse to come in. She came in and covered me in a blanket and began the massage. After a half hour she began massaging my thighs and then mumbled something, went out of the room and before I knew what was happening the blanket came off and she asked me to turn over. I did so and she put a warm wet cloth by my vaginal area and then began giving me a vaginal massage, massaging my clitoris and making me orgasm. She also caressed my breasts and nipples. I didn't know what was happening and was so uncomfortable but didn't know how to say no this isn't what I want. When she began doing this I totally dissociated. I feel so violated. Maybe I gave off the wrong vibes that this is what I wanted? Did anyone ever experience something like this? Did they think I wanted a happy ending? I'm so confused as to what happened... Love and support appreciated...
 
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Ihavecontrolofthebeast

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Omg that's awful! No, I have had many massages and never has this happened.
 
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Zoe1

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:welcome:

I have been sexually abused by women
but I cant always remember it

:grouphug:
 
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Ihavecontrolofthebeast

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I honestly would try and forget it. Brush it off as a misunderstanding and make sure to never go back. You'll end up going over and over it in your mind and driving yourself crazy otherwise. Hugs xx
 
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Zoe1

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do you have any kind of support, Low Stress ?

I would be considering whether to make a complaint
or rather whether I have any support to make a complaint
like an advocate or something
 
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