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Melville76

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I need some advice. I feel like i am such a horrible person. I have done a terrible thing in my eyes that may seem insignificant to other people. I can't get it out of my head. Is there someone that can help me?
 
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This is an anonymous forum, so feel free to tell us about the incident, providing as much or as little detail as you wish. Bear in mind that if you already think it may seem insignificant, it probably is.
 
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Thank you for answering back. I have a friend at work. We are quite close at work and chat a lot but we arent friends socially. I heard something about her the other day and instead of keeping it to myself i told someone else. I am so scared that she knows and i hate that i am that kind of person. I hate myself for doing it. I feel like i sound so pathetic.
 
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Thank you for answering back. I have a friend at work. We are quite close at work and chat a lot but we arent friends socially. I heard something about her the other day and instead of keeping it to myself i told someone else. I am so scared that she knows and i hate that i am that kind of person. I hate myself for doing it. I feel like i sound so pathetic.
Let's evaluate the worst case scenario: I guess it's possible that your friend will eventually find out that you spread a rumor about her. Depending on the nature of the rumor, she may stop being friends with you but that's the absolute worst that could possibly happen. Given that friendships are transient anyway and everyone makes mistakes, you must learn from your mistake here, forgive yourself and move on.
 
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Except in my head i am making it even worse and convincing myself i am going to be sacked too. I feel terrible
 
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Except in my head i am making it even worse and convincing myself i am going to be sacked too. I feel terrible
Have you ever been diagnosed with OCD or any other anxiety disorder?
 
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Melville76

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No i havent. I am like this in all situations though. I work myself up to the point i cant breathe. I know in my head its completely irrational. I just need to learn to cope better and not get myself in such situations
 
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No i havent. I am like this in all situations though. I work myself up to the point i cant breathe. I know in my head its completely irrational. I just need to learn to cope better and not get myself in such situations
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TBH a trip to the nearest psych will not hurt.
 
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Melville76

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Im not confidant to do that. I dont want my partner to know.
 
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A while back my community started an initiative for all of us to commit to refraining from talking about other people for one hour per week and it was challenging. We don't realize how much we do it but we all do. Why? It's an easy way of bonding with people and making ourselves feel better about ourselves. So don't be so hard on yourself. Instead, maybe try to be mindful of it and you'll see how hard it is and notice how you can barely get through a conversation without someone saying something about someone. And if you just can't forgive yourself for this incident, maybe apologize to the person?
 
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Yes i can see i just need to not do it again. And i will definitely apologise. I hate confrontation. I should just stop getting myself into such a mess
 
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The fact that ur so bothered about this in my opinion shows ur not a horrible person.
Why don’t you speak to the person that you told the gossip too and say you regret telling them and can they keep it to themselves.
If it’s already out there all you can do it apologies.
Worrying isn’t going to change anything tho x
 
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