• Hi. It’s great to see you. Welcome!

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life. Amongst our membership there is a wealth of expertise that has been developed through having to deal with mental health issues.

    We are an actively moderated forum with a team of experienced moderators. We also have a specialist safety team that works extra hard to keep the forum safe for visitors and members.

    Register now to access many more features and forums!

Feeling scared

E

EstherRose94

Well-known member
Joined
Mar 2, 2019
Messages
1,621
Location
USA
The episode of the sitcom I watch every day when I drink my coffee was about death and I started thinking about what if my boyfriend dies and I’m feeling hurt that he doesn’t wanna live with me yet.

Im a huge sappy mess rn. I want to keep my feelings more calm but I feel scared of losing my bf whether by death or by him not committing. Why wouldn’t he commit now? We might not have that much time 😢
 
daffy

daffy

Well-known member
Moderator
Founding Member
Joined
Dec 16, 2007
Messages
5,878
Location
hiding behind the sofa
I think what you feeling is more to do with yourBPD than your boyfriend but someone with BPD may be able to advise you better. Have you been with your bf for long
 
midnightphoenix

midnightphoenix

Well-known member
Joined
Mar 9, 2012
Messages
9,453
Location
Tigger and Willow's house UK
It sounds like your BPD is starting to make you feel clingy towards him and feeling anxious as well, just the impression I get :hug:
 
E

EstherRose94

Well-known member
Joined
Mar 2, 2019
Messages
1,621
Location
USA
Almost three years ☺
 
E

EstherRose94

Well-known member
Joined
Mar 2, 2019
Messages
1,621
Location
USA
Yeah I guess so. How do people get close without getting clingy? Lol. I’m either kinda clingy or distant.
 
Flameheart

Flameheart

ACCOUNT CLOSED
Joined
Nov 7, 2018
Messages
1,377
Location
Lost
Yeah I guess so. How do people get close without getting clingy? Lol. I’m either kinda clingy or distant.
from all the threads you've posted, it sounds as if you don't have much of a life outside of your boyfriend, maybe that's something that you should work on to help you and your relationship, if your focus is always on him, then yeah you will be overthinking everything he says and does, that isn't healthy for either of you

you should both be committed but still learn to keep each other at a distant and have other focuses in your life
 
E

EstherRose94

Well-known member
Joined
Mar 2, 2019
Messages
1,621
Location
USA
from all the threads you've posted, it sounds as if you don't have much of a life outside of your boyfriend, maybe that's something that you should work on to help you and your relationship, if your focus is always on him, then yeah you will be overthinking everything he says and does, that isn't healthy for either of you

you should both be committed but still learn to keep each other at a distant and have other focuses in your life

You are absolutely right. I’ve been slowly trying to convince myself to do that and I’m getting closer so I guess I should take the leap. I want to volunteer, that’s my step one.
 
Top