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Lilybonnie

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I live with medium level depression which erupts into severe depression every 2 to 3 months, getting more frequent as I get older (I'm nearly 60 and feel my emotional development was arrested at age 7-8). I can't see any point in anything, am on my third different antidepressants but they don't do anything, have had loads of counselling which only made me feel worse. I've been working on myself and trying to heal for over 30 years and am just so tired of trying and feel that nothing will ever improve, it's just getting worse.
 
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Thinking of you. As you will know great forum with lovely people who are so helpful. Take care
 
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Thank you both - this does seem a caring forum and very active. I live in the UK - are most people on here from US?
 
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Welcome Lilybonnie! Sorry you’ve been going through that. We are all here to listen, and maybe you could pick up some good advice that might help here.

there is a variety of people on here, lots of UK people though.
 
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Hi Lilybonnie, I'm from Toronto, Ont. Canada and like you, I have been in therapy a long time and I have to be on medication. Lucky for me my medication works, I feel for you, having to go through a severe depression every 2 or 3 months, that's too much! Very frustrating having to try 3 different meds only to have them not work. I was just wondering what kind of therapy you were taking, CBT, emotional? Certain therapies like CBT in my opinion, are helpful when you're feeling better, but for me not when I'm in severe mode. It just frustrates me, and causes me to judge myself, Like "of I'm not thinking the way I should be thinking" and it doesn't help when its this deep. Thinking positive thoughts just seems impossible to me when I'm severe. Nothing helps, I feel no joy in the normal things that give me joy. Thinking logically to justify my thinking, only frustrates me, because it doesn't help either. What I need, when I'm severe, is compassion, no judgement, acceptance of feelings, being gentle with my self, like I'm wounded. I am not open at that time to challenging my thoughts and rationalizing them. I just don't have the emotional energy to do so. As for medication, please keep trying, because depression they say is the most treatable illness, once you find the one medication or maybe two? While I'm waiting for an increase to take hold, I find my prescribed clonazepam, helpful in giving me calm moments, some relief. I had a therapist who was very supportive with me emotionally, she validated my feelings and there was no judgement. This worked for me. Maybe when I'm feeling better I'll try the CBT again, but everyone is different with what works for them. Please keep trying to find the right med and the right therapy, you deserve it! Thinking of you!
 
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Hi Megan thanks so much for your reply. I agree with you about CBT - it's not something I can do when I'm in a severe dip either, although this morning I thought I may give it another go. I think you're right, I do need to try more antidepressants so will speak to my doctor on Monday. I've also thought that maybe EFT would help -, does anyone here have any experience of it?
 
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Hi Megan thanks so much for your reply. I agree with you about CBT - it's not something I can do when I'm in a severe dip either, although this morning I thought I may give it another go. I think you're right, I do need to try more antidepressants so will speak to my doctor on Monday. I've also thought that maybe EFT would help -, does anyone here have any experience of it?
Lilybonnie, Yes, me.....I had 15 years of EFT with my therapist, and she was non judgmental, very supportive and got me to trust my feelings and not be so panicked by them. I learned how to cope with my emotions, and recognize the triggers. I just found a site called emotion focussed therapy She explained to me that CBT was good "for getting me out the door" but not what I needed at that time when I was clinically depressed. I suffered a lot of anxiety and now I can cope with it, our emotions tell us so much! I've learned to accept my feelings of depression and anxiety rather then trying to fight a losing battle. A really good book I read was by Dr. Claire Weekes called Hope and Help for your nerves which was recommended to me by the head of Anxiety Disorders at the hospital. I found it took a weight off of my shoulders!
 
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What you are feeling is not permanent. There will be better days for you.

Listening to motivational and uplifting songs on youtube helps me. Music is therapeutic. Listen to it daily or as often as you need it.

Helping someone is therapeutic also. Find someone who is in need of help. Maybe you can help by giving your preloved items, you may volunteer in your community by feeding those in need or you may volunteer online. You can coach or teach.
 
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