- Jan 16, 2019
It is a difficult situation.Also had a call back today from the domestic abuse centre, they said to just stay away. They said it's medium risk and they'll close the case until he needs any health care. Just sent an e-mail to Cruse about the counselling so hoping to hear back soon. Trying to deal with anxiety now.
You are being so strong to both give him some time, but also keep your distance.
I do believe that though it may sound heartless, sometimes we have to draw a line with these kinds of people and keep them out of our lives for a while. It is difficult in your position as you may regret not having a relationship with your father etc etc but also you need to realise his toxicity.
Lunus posted me some great articles on radical acceptance. It can be very hard to practice, but I hope it will be a source of support to you
Three Blocks to Radical Acceptance
What It Really Means to Practice Radical Acceptance
f I accept what happened, then I approve of it. Then I like it. Then I’m OK with it. Then I excuse the abuse. Then I absolve the person who deeply hurt me of all responsibility. Then I allow the infidelity. Then I can’t do anything about losing my job or losing my home. I can’t change it. Then I resign myself to being miserable. Then I keep wallowing and suffering.
Radical acceptance doesn’t mean any of these things. “It simply means that you are acknowledging reality,” said psychotherapist Sheri Van Dijk, MSW, RSW. You are acknowledging what happened or what’s currently happening. Because fighting reality only intensifies our emotional reaction, she said.