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Feeling not good enough to volunteer

TulipIceCream

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I went to a volunteer fair at my school today. I showed up to the check in booth and one of the guys asked me if I was even a student there (???). The other guy said,"of course she's here for the volunteer fair". It was confusing and I don't know why he said it. I don't know if I should feel awkward or that guy should. 🙁 Why, do I look different? Do I? 🥺

Then I went to each booth looking for one that fit me but they were 90% tutoring children or sitting with the elderly and providing them company. I can't make conversation with strangers and I bet their clients would be disappointed if they ended up with me as their volunteer to chat with. I wouldn't know what to say. And tutoring children? I am sure I would teach them something basic wrong and look dumb but also mess up that child's life too.

The other positions were too far and I don't have a car. One was volunteering at the prison.

So I went home. I wanted to do something fulfilling but they all involved social skills. I was hoping for a position where I could put things in boxes or something not with people.
 
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I know what you mean by social awkwardness. I was always fairly shy but forced myself to make an effort, to make friends. My wife is the chatty one in our relationship though - I just tag along.:).

Good for you though for making the effort. I'm sure there was nothing meant by the comments made.
 
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It’s worthwhile looking on the internet for volunteering jobs. There’s all sorts posted on there and I’m sure you’d find something. What about an animal shelter ,taking the dogs for walks. It can do your MH the world of good And help your anxiety. I’m schitzoaffective and social anxiety but have helped out in a charity shop for several years but now I volunteer for an elderly charity on the reception desk and do some basic office work and sometimes help out with the groups they run.
It was really hard for me starting out volunteering due to anxiety and every week I worry about whether I’ll cope but I do and it gives you such a good feeling knowing that you’ve given a little something back to society
 
TulipIceCream

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I like the idea of volunteering with animals. That would be great for me. Daffy you are my goal! I would like to advance to helping the elderly one on one.
 
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I wanted to do something fulfilling but they all involved social skills. I was hoping for a position where I could put things in boxes or something not with people.
Hey, I totally get you with this Tulip.
I once worked in a govt social housing office where finding files was a nightmare; nobody bothered to put files back alphabetically. So I went about refiling hundreds of them.

What a wonderful time that was! On my own, nobody to worry me and totally focused on inanimate objects. I loved it!!!!

The community does recognize the value of volunteers, but they don't realize how precious volunteering can be to the individual.

After my brain broke and I was forced to medically retire I felt worthless. I was approached to volunteer as a peer supporter at a MH online forum and did it for 3 and 1/2 yrs. It changed my world for the better as I was busy, felt valuable and contributed towards my own recovery through helping others.

For this reason, I do hope you find something fulfilling. You so deserve it!
 
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