Feeling Low

[Dec]

Hi,

I'm feeling very low for the last number of months and its now got to the point I do not know where to turn to.

I came out of a bad relationship at the tale end of last year. I was treated badly on several occasions when my girlfriend at the time cheated on me with someone else. I couldn't deal with it at the time.

Then towards the beginning of this year I started to get a glimmer of hope as I started to see someone who I had liked for a very very long time. Manage to find the courage to talk to her. And it was amazing. I learnt from previous relationship to take things slow and steady. We had a few dates and things were going from strength to strength. She began to tell me she really liked me and the feelings were mutual. Then unfortunately the current situation we are all in happened. But we still stayed in contact. She was still keen and making ideas what we could do, places to see after this all settles. Which got me excited and filled with hope. And just now shes dropped me. Feel awful. All them hopes and dreams were like a carrot being dangled in front of me. Don't know how anyone can do such a thing.

 

[BlueButBeautiful]

Hey.
I never dated anyone but I hope I can help you. I really loved someone. I remember how awful that was - letting myself down and constantly feeling that it's my fault and that
s how things will be forever. I honestly don't think about that person now. I sometimes feel that we want people's love because we don't love ourselves. They give us the kind of 'high' we don't get when we are alone. It's okay to cry, just let it out. Don't do anything that will hurt you though. I feel helpless from time to time too, somehow I get through it. You will get through it, don't worry and get good sleep

 

[JessisMe]

Hi,

I'm feeling very low for the last number of months and its now got to the point I do not know where to turn to.

I came out of a bad relationship at the tale end of last year. I was treated badly on several occasions when my girlfriend at the time cheated on me with someone else. I couldn't deal with it at the time.

Then towards the beginning of this year I started to get a glimmer of hope as I started to see someone who I had liked for a very very long time. Manage to find the courage to talk to her. And it was amazing. I learnt from previous relationship to take things slow and steady. We had a few dates and things were going from strength to strength. She began to tell me she really liked me and the feelings were mutual. Then unfortunately the current situation we are all in happened. But we still stayed in contact. She was still keen and making ideas what we could do, places to see after this all settles. Which got me excited and filled with hope. And just now shes dropped me. Feel awful. All them hopes and dreams were like a carrot being dangled in front of me. Don't know how anyone can do such a thing.

What an unwelcome development
to be let down in this way. I certainly feel for you and for your situation. On the brighter side both of these women were interested in you enough to want to date you. That means other women out there would probably want to date you too.
As hard as it may be rather than looking at the sadness instead try to look at the possibility that lies in front of you. You might not have been happy in either of those relationships over the long term.
There might be someone out there who you would be even more compatible with. Spruce yourself up a bit and head out to look for her. It might seem like a drag at the outset but you never know what will come.

 

[Faith198]

This sounds like a similar situation a family member of mine is currently dealing with. I know it sucks to feel like you were dropped and all the things you talked about are meaningless now, but you are not alone. You will find someone who makes you feel that way again. What sucks about life is how unsure it is. Everything can be fine one day then all of a sudden it can change.

How you respond to that is the important part. Try to appreciate it for what it was. In a way it is a good thing she ended things because it could have gone differently, she could have stayed and been cheating, etc. Time will help you heal and I hope you find a special girl again.

 

[Ema]

Its hard and it hurts and even more when someone left you and its hard to trust again and then it happens Seciond time too it plays with your mind and you start thinking its something about you but i would ignore that and tell youself all of your good sides and why they liked you in first place and for every person who walked out of your life comes one who is little better and you see why it needed to hapen and it is better that is because you would never meet other persons who maybe more similar to you so dont even ask why stay positive and enjoy yourself until you meet again someone and we all sholud give little love to ourselves first so that we can share it when someone comes to us . And for those who dont value it let them go

 

[ValentinaF]

Hi,

I'm feeling very low for the last number of months and its now got to the point I do not know where to turn to.

I came out of a bad relationship at the tale end of last year. I was treated badly on several occasions when my girlfriend at the time cheated on me with someone else. I couldn't deal with it at the time.

Then towards the beginning of this year I started to get a glimmer of hope as I started to see someone who I had liked for a very very long time. Manage to find the courage to talk to her. And it was amazing. I learnt from previous relationship to take things slow and steady. We had a few dates and things were going from strength to strength. She began to tell me she really liked me and the feelings were mutual. Then unfortunately the current situation we are all in happened. But we still stayed in contact. She was still keen and making ideas what we could do, places to see after this all settles. Which got me excited and filled with hope. And just now shes dropped me. Feel awful. All them hopes and dreams were like a carrot being dangled in front of me. Don't know how anyone can do such a thing.

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