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Feeling low and depressed

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angelflower

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I've just come back from a holiday with family. Now back in my own supported flat. I am feeling really low and depressed and missing my family. Life feels so cruel. I ended up sleeping Monday afternoon through to Tuesday morning, which meant I missed one day's medication (for which I feel really guilty). Mental Health Matters says not to feel guilty, that I must have really needed the sleep.

I feel like crying my eyes out. I had my therapy appointment this afternoon which I'm glad I woke up for. I am now struggling with urges to harm myself seriously. It feels like the only thing that will help. What's wrong is that whilst I was away I managed my urges, so now I'm back I know that I can manage them if I choose to. The question is whether or not I choose to...….
 
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Sending hugs. I came back from a holiday with my family too just over a week ago, and I hit a low as soon as I got back too.
Can you give someone in your family a call just to have a chat? Would that help?
I hope you don't hurt yourself, take care
 
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Sending hugs. I came back from a holiday with my family too just over a week ago, and I hit a low as soon as I got back too.
Can you give someone in your family a call just to have a chat? Would that help?
I hope you don't hurt yourself, take care
Thanks so much for sharing your experience with me too. Is good to hear that it's not unusual what I'm going through. I think I might try that later. I worry about being a burden on them though :) xxxx
 
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Hey,

That is quite common to feel a low after such a lovely time.

I don’t know your coping mechanisms but as PP said, try calling or messaging family. Could you set up a WhatsApp group for you all?

Just be kind to yourself OP. Watch trash TV and eat ice cream. Take a bubble bath and watch Netflix in bed. Whatever makes you super comfy. X

Sending virtual hugs over to you. :hug1:
 
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Hey,

That is quite common to feel a low after such a lovely time.

I don’t know your coping mechanisms but as PP said, try calling or messaging family. Could you set up a WhatsApp group for you all?

Just be kind to yourself OP. Watch trash TV and eat ice cream. Take a bubble bath and watch Netflix in bed. Whatever makes you super comfy. X

Sending virtual hugs over to you. :hug1:
Bless you and thanks for your support. Unfortunately, I'm not good at technology. I'm watching TV till 9pm then I shall take my meds, do my DBT homework, and maybe have a bath, then go to bed. If necessary, I will phone the Samaritans......
 
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I came back from our 4th of July weekend after drinking massive amounts of beer. I decided I did not like who I am when I am drunk.

I have not had a drip of alcohol since.

It felt weird to come home and a bit frightening to an extent. I have not felt that way before.

Like said in this thread, do some nice things for yourself. Try to just ease back into your normal life.

And of course, I don't think your family would feel a phone call from you would be a burden. So make the call. Sometimes all it takes is a few words.
 
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I came back from our 4th of July weekend after drinking massive amounts of beer. I decided I did not like who I am when I am drunk.

I have not had a drip of alcohol since.

It felt weird to come home and a bit frightening to an extent. I have not felt that way before.

Like said in this thread, do some nice things for yourself. Try to just ease back into your normal life.

And of course, I don't think your family would feel a phone call from you would be a burden. So make the call. Sometimes all it takes is a few words.
Thanks very much for your message. I appreciate hearing what you said about drinking etc. Was it difficult to stop drinking? I had a video-call with one of my daughters, and I video-called my husband. I was glad to hear from them.

I am going to do my dishes now, have my medication, and do my DBT. I might have a bath after too, before I go to bed. xxxx
 
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Hi Angelflower,
Sorry your feeling low, glad your going to ring the Samaritans
Contact us | Samaritans
Here to listen too.
Hope one-day you'll be able to stop self-harming, many useful threads in the sh section.
Hope the distractions work for you.
Take care
 
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Thanks very much for your message. I appreciate hearing what you said about drinking etc. Was it difficult to stop drinking? I had a video-call with one of my daughters, and I video-called my husband. I was glad to hear from them.

I am going to do my dishes now, have my medication, and do my DBT. I might have a bath after too, before I go to bed. xxxx
Good. It makes me happy I could give you a bit of a chat.

It was not hard stopping drinking this time because I want to do it. In the past when I have attempted to stop, it was for other reasons. So I finally have a good reason and it is one that comes from me.

We are set for a cruise to the Caribbean in January for our 10th anniversary. I wonder how I will swing that as much of the cruise is drink related.
 
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Hi Angelflower,
Sorry your feeling low, glad your going to ring the Samaritans
Contact us | Samaritans
Here to listen too.
Hope one-day you'll be able to stop self-harming, many useful threads in the sh section.
Hope the distractions work for you.
Take care
Thanks very much for your post Mayflower. It's so hard to give up something that serves such a purpose for me. I haven't harmed myself for a long time, despite wishing to. xxxx

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Good. It makes me happy I could give you a bit of a chat.

It was not hard stopping drinking this time because I want to do it. In the past when I have attempted to stop, it was for other reasons. So I finally have a good reason and it is one that comes from me.

We are set for a cruise to the Caribbean in January for our 10th anniversary. I wonder how I will swing that as much of the cruise is drink related.
Well done. I'm sure you will succeed. xxxx
 
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Hi there, Glad you are feeling slightly better. Sometimes our mood will take a nosedive after a wonderful time with people whom we loved. I experience that all the time. I generally cope by trying to resume doing things I love, like reading, playing my games or watching Netflix. :) Hopefully as time goes, your spirit will be lifted again with things you usually do. Praying for you dear! God bless!
 
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Hi there, Glad you are feeling slightly better. Sometimes our mood will take a nosedive after a wonderful time with people whom we loved. I experience that all the time. I generally cope by trying to resume doing things I love, like reading, playing my games or watching Netflix. :) Hopefully as time goes, your spirit will be lifted again with things you usually do. Praying for you dear! God bless!
Thanks so much for your kind words. xxxx
 
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