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Feeling lost when it comes to my boyfriend



Apr 11, 2019
Munster, Indiana
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 7 1/2 years now. I have been planning on moving in with him for a long time and am suppose to make the move next week. But I am completely dreading it. He has been diagnosed with schizoid personality disorder, social anxiety, and depression. In order to try and fight these illnesses, he has been prescribed many different medications throughout the years. Once he finds one that actually helps, he abuses it by taking extremely high doses of all medications as well as drinking massive amounts of alcohol in combination with his medications. These drug binges of his last from at least two-five days. When he is on one of these binges, he gets verbally nasty with whomever he can, whether it be me, his family, or his friends. Every time he goes on a drug binge, his verbal insults get worse and worse. No matter what anyone says or does, in his mind, we are the ones wronging him and making every situation he gets into worse while high/drunk. I've taken bottles of alcohol and poured them down the drain. He just goes out and buys more. He is very aware that he has a problem with substances, but refuses to seek professional help in getting clean. He tried one meeting at AA and never went back, claiming it felt like a cult and wasn't for him. I've asked him if he would consider rehab, he refuses that because he believes it will make his battle with mental illnesses worse. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should go ahead with the move in or not. He feels that once I move in, his substance abuse will decrease because someone will be there to keep an eye on his substance intake. But I can't keep and eye on him all the time as I work full time. I would love to see him get professional help in treating his addictions as well as finding holistic methods of coping with his mental illness, but I'm seeing that's never going to happen.

I don't know where else to turn or what to do. Anyone with any advice would be greatly appreciated.


Well-known member
Mar 20, 2019
Don`t do it, you`ll regret it!!!!!!!

Until he wants to help himself, nothing can be done, simple as that.

He is an addict, abusive, what is next? Physical, when he is high or drunk??

I`m sorry, this is not a healthy relationship.


Hi, don't do it. Like Edinscotbrit writes, if it's verbally abusive, who knows what's next when you are actually with him?
You probably do love him and it must be hard, but this isn't healthy and you can't keep having to keep an eye on someone who doesn't want to help himself.

Good luck with everything and don't hesitate if you need someone.


Well-known member
May 6, 2019
Im not allowed a girlfriend. Because i will abuse her.

Not physically.. but the way i am... its not fair to inflict my personality on others.

7 years.. long time that 👊 ... good luck xx
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