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feeling lonely..



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Nov 25, 2011
British Columbia, Canada
Why can I feel so alone while being in a relationship for 4 years? I need a friend or just someone to talk to about life n shit


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Oct 17, 2011
I know what it feels like to be lonely. Apart from family the only time I hang out with other people is during my therapy group and when I chat to people online.

Even when I am with people I feel alone and lonely. Unless you are with people who understand what you are going through it's like you are in a different reality to other people. In your own bubble, invisible walls separating you from the world around you.

I do not know how to break down those walls. I wish I did. Maybe you feel so lonely because there is something missing in your relationhips - with your partner and others. I don't know. But I do know you arent alone in how you feel.

Please know that even though you may feel lonely, it doesn't mean you are all alone. There are people who love and care about you. Even on this forum there are friendly and caring people who are happy to listen and chat...



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Jul 21, 2010
West Sussex, England
I have written before on here about how lonely I am. Im married and have a family but still feel incredibly alone. I dont think it matters how many people are around, if you are unable to talk about your problems or the people around you dont understand how you are feeling, then you do feel alone. Its very difficult to deal with this and I unfortunately havent found the answer yet. I use this forum to talk as I know that other members understand how I am feeling so I dont really have any other suggestions.

Please keep talking on here where at least you will receive support and understanding.

Tina x


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Feb 6, 2010
Hunger City
Hi ABsea, as Razza and Tina have already said - we know the feeling well. It often doesn't matter who you are with - loneliness in mental health is very common. We're all here together on this forum, we're also at home with our family and friends, but we're still alone and very very lonely.

I do find a lot of comfort in visiting this forum though - there are so many of you out there that are just as lonely as I am - somehow the sadness in that makes me feel a little bit better.


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Jul 4, 2009
Essex England
im in a relationship..been married four years almost..have a wonderful husband..three great kids..yet i feel terribly alone too like others above.
i find solice in coming online...i dont have any friends offline to speak of...so your not alone in how you are feeling.mental illness is isolating in itself.
bert tomato

bert tomato

Well-known member
Apr 4, 2010
Its difficult. It takes time. Honesty is the key. You need to be brave. When you are truly honest you set yourself free. Don't be afraid!!
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