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well i am in college and my course is coming to an end and tbh as glad as i am that it is finishing I am going to miss the friends i have made and my tutors. Thing is even though i get on with all my tutors well i feel i find it hard to make relationships (in general) with men. I could understand if i was gay (i am female) but i am not. So why do i feel easier and more comfortable with females than i do with males?
 
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Is it because you are sexually attracted to them?
 
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My childhood was good and I have been brought up with a loving family so I know it isn't anything to do with that. And no, don't get me wrong she is pretty but I think it's more that she reminds me of an older authorative figgure. Like, i feel i don't have as many responsibilities when i am in her lessons. but i feel like that in all lessons (with other tutors). tbh in life in general i always feel like men are better than me. I always feel nervous with them specially if i find them attractive.

arhh, i don't know.
 
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I really struggle with having any kind of relationships with men, but then i've got "obvious reasons" for that.
It's understandable if you get nervy around men you find attractive, but when it's all men it becomes quite problematic, doesn't it?
I think to some extent it can be quite natural to feel more at ease with your own sex. Umm.. sorry, pffft, i'm not quite sure what to suggest.

One thing i've found helpful is spending time in mixed groups and around non-threatening men (who I definitely had no attraction to :rolleyes:). I suppose the more you see everybody as human the easier it becomes? Not sure. x
 
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Thanks SS, your reply seemed to have made something click. I suppose what i am getting at is that my self esteem is rubbish. Tbh though, it doesn't matter if i find them attractive or not, i still find it nerve racking. Both of my male tutors are lovely but i still find myself getting very nervous talking to them. even if they are making the conversation. its frustrating.
I have a group of mixed friends. but i just feel awkward when it comes to males. WTF is wrong with me?! its pathetic
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I don't think theres anything wrong with you, I think the more you meet and speak to men in non threatening situations the easier it will get, don't force it, I'm sure it will get easier with time.
 
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