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Feeling like a burden.

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I've been increasingly feeling like this. My only real support is my mum but she can't really cope with me right now.
I don't want to reveal too much info about me or my mum, but needless to say she is older (68) and I'm the youngest of her kids. I've never really had mental health problems until very recently and I am at the point where I just want to die and no longer be a burden on other her. I'm incapable of functioning properly right now and I'm just so bloody tired.
 
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your not a burden, are you getting professional help? you deserve help :hug:
I have an appointment first thing to be assessed by the local mental health people. I have a number for the crisis team but I don't want to call them. I did phone the samaritans a while ago which helped a bit but it's just pretty bad tonight..
The doctor prescribed me diazepam but because I had to (later) be prescribed omeprazole for gastritis (stress!) I know the diazepam will knock me right out and I may sleep through the appointment.
 
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Hi,
I'm so sorry your struggling, many of us have been in your situation.
We totally understand, I do hope you can phone the crisis team.
They will help you.
You are not a burden, you are poorly.
Many people improve, I hope that happens to you.
Keep talking to us if it helps.
I know the tiredness, keep fighting I know it's hard.
Hugs
 
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Diazepam helps for short term use (it is not normally prescribed long term because of addiction). If Diazepan will help get through tonight, then take one - and set an alarm.

If you don't want to take Diazipam please call the Crisis team - its what they are there for.

As @Mayflower7 says - keep talking on here. You are ill, not a burden.
 
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Hi,
I'm so sorry your struggling, many of us have been in your situation.
We totally understand, I do hope you can phone the crisis team.
They will help you.
You are not a burden, you are poorly.
Many people improve, I hope that happens to you.
Keep talking to us if it helps.
I know the tiredness, keep fighting I know it's hard.
Hugs
Thank you, it's just really hard - I've been so used to being able to cope on my own that it's really horrible to feel like you can't cope with even simple things anymore. Like there's no escape.
 
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Diazepam helps for short term use (it is not normally prescribed long term because of addiction). If Diazepan will help get through tonight, then take one - and set an alarm.

If you don't want to take Diazipam please call the Crisis team - its what they are there for.

As @Mayflower7 says - keep talking on here. You are ill, not a burden.
Yeah, they told me that - I know it's just to get me through this period until I can get some help. I am trying to distract myself but it's just like nothing works anymore; the things I used to find so easy to get into and be absorbed by just doesn't work anymore - just need to get through this night and try and sleep. If I find myself slipping and getting really bad I'll call the crisis team instead of samaritans, I just feel bad doing it.
 
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Hi,
That's the illness talking, it is really hard. Just try not to lose hope.
Please ring the crisis team or do like others suggested try one diazepam and set an alarm.
You will hopefully feel a bit better after seeing the psych in the morning.
Try and set little tasks each day like washing your face and build up, you will feel good that you are doing something.
Take care
 
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I am trying to distract myself but it's just like nothing works anymore
In my bad times I have watched what ever bad TV program I can find - more to have noise and company that. I didn't try anything with a story line - I mainly watched documentaries on catch up so could always watch them again if I wanted to.

Take care. ANd good luck tomorrow xx
 
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I called the crisis team, the man I spoke to was nice. He said to take a diazepam and not worry about the appointment. Set an alarm and he's put a note down that I've called incase I am late and said if I am running late to just phone them up and still go in.

Thanks guys.. just waiting for it to work now as I'm a bit of a mess but know I need to sleep.
 
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Glad to hear the man from the crisis team was helpful. Hope today goes well. xxx
 
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I'm back from my assessment - it was very stressful but I at least got to see an actual psychiatrist.
I know they can't give a definitive diagnosis just yet, and it seems the initial assessment is to just form a sort of foundation.
Anyway, she thinks I'm aspergers and that I am currently going through a severe depressive episode - I have to pick one of two antidepressants and I'll be researching which is best.
I'd really rather not have to take any medication but she said that I have to in my case as therapy alone won't help.

I have a GP appointment in an hour too, so will ask him about it I guess.
 
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Which anti depressants have they suggested? Maybe we can help you with out experiances of the them.

There is no shame in taking the anti depressants if they help you feel better. Depression is a nightmare. Anti depressents can help day-to-day functioning.

Hope the GP appointment went well.
 
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Which anti depressants have they suggested? Maybe we can help you with out experiances of the them.

There is no shame in taking the anti depressants if they help you feel better. Depression is a nightmare. Anti depressents can help day-to-day functioning.

Hope the GP appointment went well.
Hey, thanks for your reply.

I had a low period and spoke to an on-call nurse for the local mental health service and she had a nice chat with me about my worries and to make sure I'm safe. She told me, again, to take diazepam which helped .. I'm worried that I'm not able to just be without the diazepam there to stop me freaking out...

Anyway, the two choices are escitalopram and sertraline. The GP recommended escitalopram for me in his opinion. My mum is on sertraline so she naturally said go with that; but she has been on antidepressants for a very long time (now see why I am reluctant to take them?) and she was previously on effexor.

It sounds bad, but I'm considering just taking the prescription and getting them but not taking them just to get them off my back... I just wish there was an alternative to taking these things.
 
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I don't have any experiances with either of the drugs, so did a quick search for Zoloft (sertraline) and Lexapro (escitalopram) and came across this MedicineNet which compares the 2 meds.

Given how you have been feeling over last 48 hours, I'd be inclined to go with the GP's recomendation, at least until you can get a review (hopefully in a months time).

You could try a couple of days on lowest possible dose of diazipam, see if this episode will pass. My own GP said it would take over 28 days of taking diazipam to get addicted (at 2mg three times a day). I have a hisptory of addicition so I was wary about taking Diazipam - and never take more than 3 days on the trot.

I've been on anti depressents for over 10 years now, and I expect I will carry on being on them in order to function. Finding the right one, and the right dose has been trial and error - there are so many out there.

If you start taking the pills and start getting unbearable side effects talk to GP (phone call consult is usuall enough), they should advise what to do.
 
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