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Fairy Lucretia

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I wondered if people had feelings like they were not as good as other people?
it isn't just that I feel like I could never compare to anyone and compare myself all the time x

I think even if I were clever and beautiful I would feel inferior to others
 
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I wish you could see you the way I do so you could know that you are so special and precious and a good person xxx
 
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I do feel that way a lot, I was thinking about that today. My default towards most people is that they must be superior to me. Idk why. It is partially just like “you do you, I won’t get in your way”. But SO many people just walk all over that.

There’s this newer girl at work/ lab and I feel kinda threatened by her but realistically we’re both students in the same grad program and I’m like two years ahead of her. She’s one of those people who really puts on a front like she’s the coolest person ever. I know that means she’s insecure but at the same time I don’t like that attitude. It’s like I’m not competing with you. I agree you’re probably better than me, please stop trying to prove that you are.

I also know I need to quit that though because I’m just as good as anyone else 🥰🥰

And so are you! ❤
 
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I wondered if people had feelings like they were not as good as other people?
it isn't just that I feel like I could never compare to anyone and compare myself all the time x

I think even if I were clever and beautiful I would feel inferior to others
It’s the judgements we put on ourselves and others that causes us so much suffering. Try to be kind and compassionate to yourself.
 
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You are as good as anyone else. We all have our different gifts that we are special at. Yours is giving peace and love and welcoming to people on this forum.
I think a lot of the feeling of being inferior is that we didn’t get enough praise as we were growing up. I always remember my mum saying to me when she saw I got a B in art, why didn’t you get an A. And things like that stick with you.
Believe in yourself Lu. You don’t have to be ultra clever to be a nice person :hug:
 
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No one is good at everything. No one.

What you are good at is a great capacity for kindness and love, even as you struggle.

That, to me, is an exceptional talent that not many have.

Celebrate that.

And frankly? Screw him.
 
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You are as good as anyone else. We all have our different gifts that we are special at. Yours is giving peace and love and welcoming to people on this forum.
I think a lot of the feeling of being inferior is that we didn’t get enough praise as we were growing up. I always remember my mum saying to me when she saw I got a B in art, why didn’t you get an A. And things like that stick with you.
Believe in yourself Lu. You don’t have to be ultra clever to be a nice person :hug:
Haha I think art might have been one class where my parents would have let a B slide like “yeah she really just can’t draw, paint, etc to save her life”.

I never took art after like 6th grade for that reason though, so grading was still like “well, you tried”.
 
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I wondered if people had feelings like they were not as good as other people?
it isn't just that I feel like I could never compare to anyone and compare myself all the time x

I think even if I were clever and beautiful I would feel inferior to others
"Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today." - Jordan B. Peterson
 
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i feel exactly the same for this dates back to when i was a child maybe 5 i was told my countless teachers throughout school i was stupid secluded from the class in the corner alone it was not a good time this still effects me daily if not me actively thinking about it but subconsciously
 
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Ahh. Don’t get me started on issues in the educational system 😅

Your teachers had no idea what they were doing. Don’t let it bother you.
 
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it wasn't so much school for me, mainly my family and "friend" groups making me feel worthless, my mum always pick my brother over me and wishing she didn't have me as a daughter, friends always end up excluding me and losing interest, I'm never anyone's first choice, if I died tomorrow it wouldn't bother many at all
 
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it wasn't so much school for me, mainly my family and "friend" groups making me feel worthless, my mum always pick my brother over me and wishing she didn't have me as a daughter, friends always end up excluding me and losing interest, I'm never anyone's first choice, if I died tomorrow it wouldn't bother many at all
It’d bother me!! 🥰. I understand that friends losing interest and excluding thing. Never understood why!
 
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it wasn't so much school for me, mainly my family and "friend" groups making me feel worthless, my mum always pick my brother over me and wishing she didn't have me as a daughter, friends always end up excluding me and losing interest, I'm never anyone's first choice, if I died tomorrow it wouldn't bother many at all
I have very similar thoughts to you. I’m sure my little sister did as well before she took her own life, yet there were around 300 friends and family grieving for her. Makes you think.
 
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