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Feeling horribly pressured ...

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AuraSunset

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In two days I'm supposed to go for dental surgery. On Halloween of all days. If I go, which is extremely unlikely, it will be only the second time I've left my house in nearly 13 years. And I'm supposed to just roll up to the clinic, in broad daylight, sit there with more people than I've seen in years and then let some guy drill holes in my face ... And I don't understand why anyone thinks I can do this, when I can't even open my curtains or sit in my own garden. I feel so overwhelmed and pressured and no one seems to understand or care. I get why my support worker and daughter want me to go. The dentist came to my home, which I was also pressured into, and said I'm at very high risk of getting sepsis. So I get it. But getting it doesn't make any difference to the impossibility of achieving it. And I know if I don't go they're going to be furious with me and I just feel like I need a way out, but there isn't one ...
 
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Hi AuraSunset

You don't need "a way out" but a way forward.

I have had serious dental work performed by the Dental section in hospital - I was an extremely nervous patient and the hospital were fantastic. They are more qualified with anaesthesia , pain relief and pre-med relaxants.

If I was you, I would phone the dental practice and be absolutely honest about how you are feeling. Explain how afraid you are and how great the emotional strain of this is on you. You might be able to get a hospital referral for the treatment. (More than likely if you have potential sepsis.)


This is a terrifying thing looming on the horizon for you - the sooner you get this done, the sooner all this misery goes away. You can get this behind you and relax.

Your dentist WILL understand and you must talk to them.

I'm here for a while - talk to me if it helps x :hug:
 
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Hi Aurasunset. 13 years is long time staying at your house without going out. I can understand totally why you are afraid. It is going to be tough on you to go to the dentist. Try to make sure the dentist can do everything in one appointment this may help some.

Why have you not been out of your house for so long? I was home bound for a few months due to depression. I sure hope you will go through with going to the dentist. It is so important. I am cheering for you and hope all goes well. Hugs and love Jules
 
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Is it possible to have them sedate you before you leave the house so you can make it to the dentist office, then make accomadations for you once your there, like not having to sit in the waiting room, just go straight to the treatment room, calm music, lowered lights, then knock you out for the treatment?
 
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AuraSunset

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Thanks for the advice and kind words everyone. I was originally meant to get the work done in the hospital but my dentist felt he could provide a quieter, less stressful environment at his surgery. And he's given me diazepam to take before I leave. I even have a sleep mask to wear in the car so I can't see anything on the journey.

Everyone is trying to make it as stress free as possible, but I'm just terrified, mostly of having to go out, but also having my mouth held open for so long. Strangely, pain is pretty much the only thing I'm not really concerned about.

They also can't do all the work in one go, so I have another appointment in November, which, should this one go badly is going to be literally impossible. I guess at this point I've really worked myself up into a state about the whole thing and I'm having trouble trying to think calmly about it.

Jules .. I haven't been out because I've had agoraphobia, depression, anxiety .. all of those things just snowballed, and living in an area where mental health care is pretty much non existent, the years have just passed me by. I've been waiting more than two years for a replacement support worker, since my old one changed jobs. I've even been to the ombudsman about it, but because I waited too long to complain, they refused to look at my case. I did appeal that decision but I'm still waiting to hear back from that. It's the last card I have left to play, so if they still refuse to help me, I guess I will be left to deal with my problems alone.
 
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