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Hi

Has anyone been feeling hopeless?
Like I have been feeling like things are just going to get worse.
Every attempt to make things better is pointless and just going to make things worse.
Everyone has too high expectations of me.
I'm not good enough.

I'm really struggling to find any motivation in life, because of the above reasons.... and don't really know what to do...
 
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They have high expectations of you, is that because they have confidence in your abilities but you do not? Or are their expectations of you unreasonable?

Maybe it is somewhere in between?

Just be yourself, rest, care for yourself, eat well and exercise
Note down what your personal goals are and make tiny steps towards them
Be realistic, one achievable goal at a time
 
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They have high expectations of you, is that because they have confidence in your abilities but you do not? Or are their expectations of you unreasonable?

Maybe it is somewhere in between?

Just be yourself, rest, care for yourself, eat well and exercise
Note down what your personal goals are and make tiny steps towards them
Be realistic, one achievable goal at a time
Hi thank you for writing.

Its somewhere in between, they expect me to do stuff I was good at, but am not anymore, and some expect unreasonable things from me.

I have different reactions to these though. If its some thing I used to be good at, then I am side I lost that ability. And if its something un reasonable I get angry.

It is true I haven't been exorcising much since the the second wave of COVID hit in autumn, I will try to do it more.


And what makes me sad is I try to set up goals but then I get set back by problems, weather its from my family or friends or school.
 
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It is true I haven't been exorcising much since the the second wave of COVID hit in autumn, I will try to do it more.
Glad to hear that you will exercise more! Good Luck with that! ☺
 
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My abilities fluctuate with my mental illness and it sounds like that is the same for you?

We just have to do as much as we can, when we can.

I don't think about what other people want from me as much as i used to. I don't want to disappoint, i want to do well but i do know i am sometimes capable and sometimes not.
 
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There is a sure hope for you. Look at the brighter side of things. Look at the reason why they have high expecatations of you. They must have seen you achieve and did well before.

Believe in yourself and in what you can do because you are well able and you have it in you to excel or succeed.
 
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My abilities fluctuate with my mental illness and it sounds like that is the same for you?

We just have to do as much as we can, when we can.

I don't think about what other people want from me as much as i used to. I don't want to disappoint, i want to do well but i do know i am sometimes capable and sometimes not.
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thank you for writing.

Yeah... but I just feel really bad, and useless if I don't do as much as everyone want's from me.
 
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There is a sure hope for you. Look at the brighter side of things. Look at the reason why they have high expecatations of you. They must have seen you achieve and did well before.

Believe in yourself and in what you can do because you are well able and you have it in you to excel or succeed.
Hi
Thank you for writing.

I guess you are right. But its still sad that I am not good enough anymore. I try my best... but sometimes its hard to motivate my self to do my best.
 
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Just be who you are and do what you can do
I used to do much more than i do now, with illness and medication, even though i am fairly well

Some days i have to let myself rest and have only the responsibility of eating and drinking and brushing my teeth

We can only do what we can do
Nobody knows better than me what i am capable of and i wouldn't even bother explaining anymore.
 
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