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Feeling flat empty dissociative and emotionless

Lostinthestatic

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How do you get your feelings back when this happens? I can’t even cry I just feel nothing. Like I’m not even here

Yet also somehow like I’m about to lose control..
 
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I think you have to find out why you feel this way. Is it medication, your current situation, are you not well at the moment, or are you worried about something?

I feel flat and emotionless but very laid back too. If someone was shouting at me i would be too tired to react. I do get agitated though at times, and that is when i am not well.

I hope that you manage to reduce the agitation as it isn't nice to feel.
 
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I think you have to find out why you feel this way. Is it medication, your current situation, are you not well at the moment, or are you worried about something?

I feel flat and emotionless but very laid back too. If someone was shouting at me i would be too tired to react. I do get agitated though at times, and that is when i am not well.

I hope that you manage to reduce the agitation as it isn't nice to feel.
I suppose you can just say it’s my situation, I’m not on any medication—I am definitely worried, but even that feels far away now. My relationship with my partner is always shaky and crumbling which is one reason...

I suppose I do feel “laid back”, but not in a pleasant way. I feel very foggy and like I cannot think... normally, when I’m feeling bad I can at least try to imagine something positive, even if it doesn’t exactly help. Right now I can’t even do that, it’s like what am I even doing?

It’s like I’m not even here. But I want to be here... so I feel a sense of panic. Almost kind of. I don’t know. Normally dissociation isn’t this horrible for me.

I’m thinking, oh maybe a walk would help. But I know if I get overstimulated because there is a lot of noise and people around me it may get worse. I’m just alone with the cat...
 
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My therapist used to tell me to "walk it off",he would tell me to go for long walks or find things that would keep me busy.Sometimes dancing to music helped,sometimes cleaning out closets,sometimes just jumping up and down.Anything to get the entire body moving.
 
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My therapist used to tell me to "walk it off",he would tell me to go for long walks or find things that would keep me busy.Sometimes dancing to music helped,sometimes cleaning out closets,sometimes just jumping up and down.Anything to get the entire body moving.
That’s what I thought, maybe I’ll do some exercise? Thank you sunnydaze
 
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Walks help me but only when i have the energy. Does energy come once you walk out the door? Once you walk, maybe you can keep walking and it does make you feel better. Depression is a hard one as some say exercise helps but others say they cannot even begin and it does not help.

Situation, maybe it is about trying not to worry and just trying to get on with your day until you feel better? sometimes we can think through everything as we clean the floor or cook dinner, and then we are ok. Other times it feels like it can take weeks to mentally find that peace again.

I feel similarly so today i am going to take it one thing at a time. Next i have to wash up. Hopefully at some point i will feel better again.
 
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Walks help me but only when i have the energy. Does energy come once you walk out the door? Once you walk, maybe you can keep walking and it does make you feel better. Depression is a hard one as some say exercise helps but others say they cannot even begin and it does not help.

Situation, maybe it is about trying not to worry and just trying to get on with your day until you feel better? sometimes we can think through everything as we clean the floor or cook dinner, and then we are ok. Other times it feels like it can take weeks to mentally find that peace again.

I feel similarly so today i am going to take it one thing at a time. Next i have to wash up. Hopefully at some point i will feel better again.
Walking does help at times, although yes finding the motivation and energy can be hard but sometimes I do manage it.

Sometimes you really do need to just do something to start feeling better.

I think this may be getting worse also because of my lack of appetite/trouble eating... perhaps I need more food. I am trying my best.

One thing at a time, be well.
 
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Lack of appetite, i have been through. Is it lack of motivation to cook because you don't feel hungry also? I find it helpful to buy ready to eat foods so i might buy some mozarella, cooked meat, tomatoes and olives. I would end up eating pasties and sausage rolls otherwise, and that would make me feel even worse. At the moment i have pickles and cucumber and am eating that with a cheese and onion toastie as i have a toastie maker. It was the best thing i have ever bought. Before that is what chunks of cheese with crackers.

Sometimes without an appetite, soups and smoothies are more manageable. I have a blender and make smoothies which i can always eat. You can make easy soups like carrot and parsnip or leek and potato. Mushroom soup can be very easy also. A tin is just as good. Cuppa soups are nice too, with even plain bread.

Doing something, like a walk, sounds positive.
 
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Have you tried music or emotional films to trigger some emotion? Assuming you would like to cry. There are some very sad songs as well as uplifting. Some films have made me cry too, especially about those with depression or PTSD. Reign on me with Adam Sandler. Syvia is good too. One with Rachel Weis The constant gardener, that makes me cry.
 
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I suppose you can just say it’s my situation, I’m not on any medication—I am definitely worried, but even that feels far away now. My relationship with my partner is always shaky and crumbling which is one reason...

I suppose I do feel “laid back”, but not in a pleasant way. I feel very foggy and like I cannot think... normally, when I’m feeling bad I can at least try to imagine something positive, even if it doesn’t exactly help. Right now I can’t even do that, it’s like what am I even doing?

It’s like I’m not even here. But I want to be here... so I feel a sense of panic. Almost kind of. I don’t know. Normally dissociation isn’t this horrible for me.

I’m thinking, oh maybe a walk would help. But I know if I get overstimulated because there is a lot of noise and people around me it may get worse. I’m just alone with the cat...
I know those feels and I believe people can recover from them.
These sort of feelings have mostly gone away for me now so have faith they can mostly go away for you too. I think getting rid of these kinds of symptoms is a long term process but you just have to be determined to better yourself through whatever means possible and your symptoms will reduce if you take a long term approach to solving them.
If it is caused by your situation then I wonder are you in control of your life? I think you need to take steps to regain healthy control
 
Lostinthestatic

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Lack of appetite, i have been through. Is it lack of motivation to cook because you don't feel hungry also? I find it helpful to buy ready to eat foods so i might buy some mozarella, cooked meat, tomatoes and olives. I would end up eating pasties and sausage rolls otherwise, and that would make me feel even worse. At the moment i have pickles and cucumber and am eating that with a cheese and onion toastie as i have a toastie maker. It was the best thing i have ever bought. Before that is what chunks of cheese with crackers.

Sometimes without an appetite, soups and smoothies are more manageable. I have a blender and make smoothies which i can always eat. You can make easy soups like carrot and parsnip or leek and potato. Mushroom soup can be very easy also. A tin is just as good. Cuppa soups are nice too, with even plain bread.

Doing something, like a walk, sounds positive.
Have you tried music or emotional films to trigger some emotion? Assuming you would like to cry. There are some very sad songs as well as uplifting. Some films have made me cry too, especially about those with depression or PTSD. Reign on me with Adam Sandler. Syvia is good too. One with Rachel Weis The constant gardener, that makes me cry.
You’re full of really wonderful advice, I’m going to try to find an emotional movie tonight and see how that helps !!

In part it’s lack of motivation to cook because I don’t feel hungry, but also part of me is like “what’s the point?”

I definitely need to get more ready-to-eat stuff; smoothies and soups are a fantastic idea as well. I’m also a cheese addict, lol. I should try to find simple foods I know I usually really like.

I feel like I should have thought of this. Aaaahh. But I really appreciate your suggestions thank you :)
 
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I know those feels and I believe people can recover from them.
These sort of feelings have mostly gone away for me now so have faith they can mostly go away for you too. I think getting rid of these kinds of symptoms is a long term process but you just have to be determined to better yourself through whatever means possible and your symptoms will reduce if you take a long term approach to solving them.
If it is caused by your situation then I wonder are you in control of your life? I think you need to take steps to regain healthy control
My life definitely feels like a mess. I believe being alone made the dissociation much worse; right now my mom and step father are in the house, so I can remember they are present and it grounds me somewhat. When I’m alone my brain goes haywire.

I am currently waiting for regularly-scheduled appointments with my therapist, which will start in April. This is my first step toward feeling more in control, I am just hanging on as much as I can until then. I feel like I might burst at the seams.

Thank you for your input, I appreciate that you care and know what this feels like x
 
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Thank you. A simple routine, easy to eat foods, all a good idea. You reminded me of cheese and pineapple sticks just then.

Frozen fruit, bananas, milk or water, are my basics. I love the mango smoothies at the moment. You can add a sprinkle of oats, but not too much. I'm going to have one for pudding. They are great with the dry mouth side effect of my medications.

Iceland has a smoothie mix of banana and chocolate. I don't think it is as healthy as my regular smoothie but it is nice to have in for a treat. I must try fruit and yoghurt though, like bananas, cocoa and maybe a coconut yoghurt. I should get a smoothie recipe book or website.
 
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Yes... Sometimes I am so deeply, profoundly miserable and full of self-loathing that I'll cry for 4 hours or more... once I compose myself enough to go back to being dead inside it's a relief.
 
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I understand how that feels too MaineCoon.
 
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