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Feeling alone

Confusedandanxious

Confusedandanxious

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Thank you so much and I’m here to help in any way I can as well :love: do you find your children help distract you as well? It sounds like you have a lot of really productive things you like to do. How are things for you at the moment? Do you take any medication for BPD? I know there isn’t a medication specially for this disorder, but I’ve been advised by my psychiatrist to take a certain medication. I’m already on 3, but feel the meds are not benefitting my sleep, definitely not my mood. How do you find relationships with your family? Mine seem to be falling apart. I’m up and down like a yo yo. I fluctuate from loving that person, to then hating that person. The feelings are so intense. Do you find this as well?
Yes my children do help a lot. The fact that children can make anyones mood fluctuate, helps me feel a bit more "normal" lol.
They are just great in general too as their moods are often all over the place, so I'm having to help them manage their own emotions so it helps keep me on the learning side of things too.
They bring me back to leveled moods without even trying. That is where I chose to work as well, with kids.

My relationship with my family is quite good to be honest. I have had my moments with them but as I've got older this has lessened, along with us all understanding me more has helped too.

I use buspirone as anxiety is my biggest issue. I take it as and when I feel I need it. Usually when I'm going to be around others.

If I didnt become aware of myself, and learned when it was this disorder rather than me, I think many of the relationships I have with family members would have dwindled a long time ago.
Phone is going to.die. sorry if I missed anything or waffles on about something different.
 
Olivia93

Olivia93

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You haven’t waffled at all and you haven’t missed anything, don’t worry :D what do you mean when you said ‘If I didnt become aware of myself, and learned when it was this disorder rather than me, I think many of the relationships I have with family members would have dwindled a long time ago’? I have a habit of analysing and misunderstanding things! Thank you for taking the time to talk to me today. I think I can go to bed a little bit more relaxed tonight
 
Confusedandanxious

Confusedandanxious

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You haven’t waffled at all and you haven’t missed anything, don’t worry :D what do you mean when you said ‘If I didnt become aware of myself, and learned when it was this disorder rather than me, I think many of the relationships I have with family members would have dwindled a long time ago’? I have a habit of analysing and misunderstanding things! Thank you for taking the time to talk to me today. I think I can go to bed a little bit more relaxed tonight
I'm glad this post has helped you relax a bit :)
I just meant because I used to think that what I was thinking was how it is and I'd react instantly, where as now i know that a lot of the times i can be jumping the gun and thinking more into things that i should be. So i am more aware that i should take a step or three back before i react on the outside.

Try and use your analysing on your reactions to things, rather than the words or actions that caused you to analyse. That's what I try to do and find it does help sometimes.
 
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