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Fairy Lucretia

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my sister is going through a lot right now ,i can't talk about it on here

i don't know how to help her ,im trying so hard to be there for her but so much of what she is going through is triggering me and im hurting myself so much and feeling even more suicidal

im useless and pathetic ,i shouldn't be thinking about myself or my own needs at all

the only thing that is important is my sister

why am i such a loser? why can't i help her and fix things for her

god im useless i hate myself so much

i would sacrifice everything for her ,everything but im useless and no help

sorry just needed to vent xx
 
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I'm sorry you're going through this. It's okay if you can't talk about everything your sister is going through. Just know that you are important and if you're not feeling well, you must be taken care of.

I'm sure your sister understands what you're going through. I don't know if she knows about your mental illness or not, but she's your sister and I'm sure she'll understand.

I feel the same way most days. My mother means so much to me, and I feel guilty because I can't help her sometimes.

Take good care of yourself. x

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Anime-Alchemy

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Sorry to hear about this. You are not useless at all nor are you a loser. I hope you can navigate through this tough time.

Note: It's always good to vent and get things off.
 
Fairy Lucretia

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thanks ,she needs money for something important but there is a way she could do without it

i have been helping her out but im running out of money

i wish i had more money so i could help her but i only have my disability benefits
i have a very low amount of savings which mummy left me but i really wanted to save them in case there is anything wrong with maddie x
 
Fairy Lucretia

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i just have to face that i am useless pointless and pathetic

i can't help her i can't help anyone

i just want to die :cry:
 
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Maybe you can have a heart-to-heart with your sister. Take turns to talk about your problems. It might be really helpful, and will feel better to get it off your chest.
 
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You're going through a lot of stress. When I feel stressed out, I always need to take a few steps back and break things down to come up with what I should do next. Try to relax yourself. Listen to music you like, spend time with pets, drink tea. Anything to calm yourself down, all while thinking through all of this to come up with the best solution.

Don't put yourself down about all of this. We can't control everything and we can't fix everything either. It's going to be okay. You're a wonderful person. You help people all the time on here. I see it all the time. You offer to help, to listen. You've been helping me a lot. You're my best friend. And you're a great friend, too. I'm sure you're a great sister. And if you explain all of this to your sister, I'm sure she'll understand.

x

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Fairy Lucretia

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thank you so so much both of you

i gave in and gave her £500

it's difficult to have a heart to heart with her ,its a good idea but she isn't really the sort of person you can do that with


thank you SF-you are one of my best friends too ,i love talking to you
your amazing xx :hug:
 
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Lu, I certainly don;'t feel that you are useless, personally and live through the forums, I feel that after such a gap, of not been on MHF line, you have supported recently quite a few posters, even if they are brand new, or current existing ones, and you do, honestly a brilliant job, if you and if the MHF team don't mind me saying so, at that.
 
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Look after yourself also. Because if we are not in a good place or in good condition, then we are unable to help others.
 
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Hi fairy Lu,
Your not useless, you can't help being on benefits. Your sister shouldn't ask for money.
Don't feel guilty, hopefully your sister can pay you back. As you might need that money.
I'm here to listen.
Take care
 
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That's quite right, ANime-Alchemy, I'll second that.
 
Fairy Lucretia

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thanks so much everyone
i really do feel so upset about all of this

but i can't describe how im feeling ever and ii don't like being a nuisance
so i will try not to post x
 
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I think you should continue posting and expressing yourself. Also you are not a nuisance, there's no evidence at all that you are, so don't listening or pay attention to such things.
Hope you feel better soon.
 
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Though I couldn't manage to post earlier, I do agree, Lu, don't give up posting, and we are all very much here to support you. As i say, after all, you do a brilliant job if you don't mind me saying so, in supporting others such as new posters, or current exisiting ones.
 
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