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Feel so sad when boyfriend leaves!

axnkool

axnkool

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just try to forget him and look around - there are many great boys around you, but you probably didn't notice them. First experience sometimes hits very hard, but you won't stay broken after it, sh1t happens, live further
 
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Sunshine123xx

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Hey I feel the exact same way!! Whenever my boyfriend leaves my house it’s almost like a switch goes off and as cringey as it sounds my heart aches and I don’t want to do anything but go to sleep and think of him there with me lol. We have been together over a year now and if anything it’s just gotten worse as ive gotten more attached to him. I think it is just love sickness, and while I don’t think this obsessive behaviour is healthy I think it can be pretty normal. You just have to make sure it doesn’t get in the way of life- even though I don’t want to maybe get up for college and go a few days without him, I do. And although we text during the entire day, I do find there are times where he’s not on my mind and hey I’m still happy and enjoying being without him. We just have to be aware of our feelings and accept them whilst getting on with our own lives. If anything, it just makes time spent together even better after missing him! But whether or not he feels as love sick as me is another question lol, we love eachother but I do think sometimes I am more obsessed with him than he is of me which can worry me sometimes haha
 
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Worriedyin

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I’m feeling like this right now 😪
Sorry you're feeling like this.

I miss mine terribly when I'm not with him but he seems to be fine, I try and keep my feelings to myself so I'm not being too needy. I wish I wasn't like this.
 
xThatRachel

xThatRachel

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I just feel so lonely and like a piece off me is being taken away when he leaves , I love him so much
 
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LeahD

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Hi there, was wondering if anyone else can relate to this or has ever felt like this.

So basically, I always feel extremely upset and sad whenever my boyfriend leaves, no matter how much time we’ve spent together. Obviously I enjoy spending time with him and I’m always so happy when we’re together but as soon as he leaves, I can just crash and feel so sad. Sometimes as soon as he says he’s got to leave, I can start feeling teary, although I manage to hold it together until he leaves.

I feel really pathetic that I’m feeling this way, we’ve only been together about 4 months and it’s not like we don’t see each other much, it’s normally about 4 days at the most before I see him again, so it seems silly that I get so sad when he goes!

I do try and see friends and do other things when I know I’m not going to see him, I’m aware that I shouldn’t be too dependent on him, but sometimes that can be a struggle!

Does anyone else ever get like this and is it normal? I mean, I know it’s normal to miss your boyfriend, I guess, but to feel like crying just because he’s gone home and I’ve spent about 18 hours with him???*♀
Dear Katie,

I am guessing I am far older than you. I m divorced and have two children. I am a driven, successful woman. People tell me they admire me. I am happy. You know what? I feel sad when my partner leaves me. I have a full life that I love. I have many hobbies and friends. And yet, when my partner leaves, I feel just as sad as you. In the past, I struggled alone and never told my former husband-- I worried I would seem pathetic and dependent. I realize, many years later, now with a great man, that I still feel that way. Do you know what I FINALLY did? I told him. Yep, I swallowed my pride and told him--nicely--how I felt and that I felt a silly (ok a lot silly) for feeling it. He was pretty shocked. And now, he is nicer when we are apart. He knows how I feel and he tries to help. I now think, at age 50, when we have all heard and read oodles about codependency and fear it, that sometimes, this feeling can be explained by one word. Maybe you love him? MAYBE this is how even "normal" people (who are they?!) feel. Feel what you feel. Miss him. Cry a little. Tell him NICELY. Be a bit vulnerable. Vulnerability really IS the glue that binds us. Don't judge yourself! Just handle this feeling delicately. It can EASILY morph into anger, resentment, or a nasty little voice in your head that says he doesn't love you. DON'T let it do that if you can help it. We are supposed to miss people we love. I miss my children when they are at school. It didn't destroy them! They feel LOVED. Because they are. Love is a good thing. You don't need to feel ashamed of it! Most men WANT a woman who truly loves them. Try to be honest about it, and try not to accidentally drive your partner away by allowing your love for him to make you fault yourself. When my partner leaves, I sit with the sadness for a bit if I can. I miss him. It generally passes after a bit and I do something else. The ability to love someone is a good and wonderful thing. Real love is scary to every person who feels it. Be kind and positive to yourself. Remember he does treasure your affection. It is a gift! Journal your thoughts so you don't burden him with guilt. You can tell your journal ANYTHING. Your feelings are normal in my book.
 
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