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Feel depressed about how distant and cold my family is

Amelia2020

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I am a script writer and my latest film centers around a female with a very large family: Tons of siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, and they all look after one another. Although it is a thriller, it does make me feel depressed my own family. I have a very small family. My father is dead. And he was an orphan, so I don't know his side of the family. On my mother's side of the family, I have very few people who I'm close to: My mother and my grandmother. That is it. The rest are like whatever. We hardly talk. Sounds like a non problem, I know, but just makes me sad.
 
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Yeah, it's a shame. I'm not comfortable with my family.
 
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I am a script writer and my latest film centers around a female with a very large family: Tons of siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, and they all look after one another. Although it is a thriller, it does make me feel depressed my own family. I have a very small family. My father is dead. And he was an orphan, so I don't know his side of the family. On my mother's side of the family, I have very few people who I'm close to: My mother and my grandmother. That is it. The rest are like whatever. We hardly talk. Sounds like a non problem, I know, but just makes me sad.
If it makes you sad than it isn't a 'non problem'. We all have things which bother us that are a result of our upbringing, our personality and probably our genetics. The things which impact you the most may be different from somebody else, but that doesn't make it any less hurtful for you.

My best, closest friend was my younger brother and he passed away from a brain tumor 5 years ago. He wasn't even 60 yet. I had hoped that when we both got to retirement after decades of being tied up with our careers and families that he and I could spend more time together. We came out of dysfunctional family, so his sharing that experience and being someone I could talk to about it was important. I no longer have that outlet.

Loneliness is a major problem in modern society and this pandemic hasn't helped things, many of us are restricted to just getting out and doing daily errands and shopping. It's impacting us all negatively. Hope you feel better about things soon.
 
KafkaInTheWoods

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I can relate. As you say, it's a pretty sad feeling. Perhaps it's time to extend an olive branch or three?
 
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You're comparing your life to a script. There are many families, including large families that don't look after each other. Don't compare your life to tv's, movies, etc...you'll be disappointed and get sad.
 
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sending hugs x i had some bad family ,who were distant and cold ,some loving
i hope you find a relationship in the future full of love warmth and kindness ,you deserve it x
 
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Sounds like a non problem
I don't think so. Life is hard, and when you don't have a close network of family it can sometimes feel empty. I don't have a large family, and the family I do have isn't exactly close. It's okay to have emotions about that. For myself I just try to remain grateful for the people I do have. Family isn't always all that great either. Do you have other people in your life that you're close with? x
 
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