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Feel alone and confused

Mrs Tiggywinkle

Mrs Tiggywinkle

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Just been to doctors and seen my practice mental health nurse. My appointment was to be half an hour, but got approx 20 minutes I think at the most. As I’m very depressed and anxious I’ve kind of come out of the appointment feeling not helped at all. Feeling teary in the waiting room, nearly walking out as trying to smile and look like everything ok. In tears with her and very conscious of what she was going to write on the computer after me leaving.

She was smiley and did a risk assessment on me (that is what she said she was doing). Honestly my head is all over the place and hardly slept last night because of the winds. I don’t know whether I’m coming or going. I’m not even sure what she said. I just know I was offered group counselling or one to one. She said there is “help” out there, but I said there isn’t as we are all basically alone. (Years of experience).

I now have another appointment with her in 3 weeks so that she can “keep an eye on me”. Does this help me, not at all. I am alone as I previously stated.

She wants me to go on the Sertraline as I’m very depressed. It’s ok for her to say that as the drug companies do push these tablets. I think I know better, or perhaps I’m wrong. I’m more scared of the withdrawal symptoms down the line and this makes me anxious , so why bother?

In my private hell at the moment....nobody can help. “They” say they can, but no, I ultimately have to do it for myself as I’ve had experience in the past where “they” promise the earth, but it’s all a load of crap, for me anyway.

A very disheartened person. I know I sound a barrel of laughs, but my reality sadly. Any views or similar experiences or indeed any positive experiences also welcomed?
 
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Im so sorry you are going through this 😞 i know its awful, just came out of a very depressed period and honestly thought it would last forever. Nothing really helps at times like this, the only thing i recommend is to be kind to yourself. This will go over and try to remind yourself that. For the meantime wrap yourself up tight in a duvet, watch some tv and cry if you need. Im sending you a big hug and this will in time just be a memory, the sun will shine again for you again xxx
 
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I just remembered that when i was down a some years ago i had to go be with my parents for comfort, i was really low. My dad put a big poster on my door, keep calm and carry on 😊 typical british attitude, it actually really helped me xx
 
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I take Sertraline. It helps. It took some hesitation for me to start any kind of medication for the same fears, but mother supported me since she knows and has been on AD meds for awhile now. I can't exactly recall what had side effects because I started with different meds, and this one transferred over smoothly, but I'd say side effects only lasted a day. So keep that in mind. They don't stick around.

Um, but yeah, the best advice I've gotten was to just do what the doctor says. And I know it's hard if you feel alone, because it's not like the doc will be there with you holding your hand, but if you feel you don't have other support, you always have us!

And yes, it's easy to worry about withdrawal effects, but when I came off Abilify, it was tapered (and not even as slowly as I had assumed it'd be) and it wasn't so bad. (I think. I was just relieved I was getting off the weight gaining pill or so i thought). But yes, starti g a new med can be scary, but it can also make you feel a lot better. Maybe, you could request something for your anxiety too. But I think just knowing you have support helps. I hope we have offered some help. <3
 
Mrs Tiggywinkle

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I forgot to say I have high pressure in my eyes and the meds can increase it further which can lead to pressure on the optic nerve and cause glaucoma, so stuck between a rock and a hard place with this one. I far as I can see, they all have this risk. :low:
 
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I forgot to say I have high pressure in my eyes and the meds can increase it further which can lead to pressure on the optic nerve and cause glaucoma, so stuck between a rock and a hard place with this one. I far as I can see, they all have this risk. :low:
Awe! Dear, that sucks big time! Don't get discouraged yet though. Talk to your doctor. Maybe you missed something!
*hugs
 
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I forgot to say I have high pressure in my eyes and the meds can increase it further which can lead to pressure on the optic nerve and cause glaucoma, so stuck between a rock and a hard place with this one. I far as I can see, they all have this risk. :low:
Out of interest (and cause I have it) is it IIH you have?
 
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neggs

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Just been to doctors and seen my practice mental health nurse. My appointment was to be half an hour, but got approx 20 minutes I think at the most. As I’m very depressed and anxious I’ve kind of come out of the appointment feeling not helped at all. Feeling teary in the waiting room, nearly walking out as trying to smile and look like everything ok. In tears with her and very conscious of what she was going to write on the computer after me leaving.

She was smiley and did a risk assessment on me (that is what she said she was doing). Honestly my head is all over the place and hardly slept last night because of the winds. I don’t know whether I’m coming or going. I’m not even sure what she said. I just know I was offered group counselling or one to one. She said there is “help” out there, but I said there isn’t as we are all basically alone. (Years of experience).

I now have another appointment with her in 3 weeks so that she can “keep an eye on me”. Does this help me, not at all. I am alone as I previously stated.

She wants me to go on the Sertraline as I’m very depressed. It’s ok for her to say that as the drug companies do push these tablets. I think I know better, or perhaps I’m wrong. I’m more scared of the withdrawal symptoms down the line and this makes me anxious , so why bother?

In my private hell at the moment....nobody can help. “They” say they can, but no, I ultimately have to do it for myself as I’ve had experience in the past where “they” promise the earth, but it’s all a load of crap, for me anyway.

A very disheartened person. I know I sound a barrel of laughs, but my reality sadly. Any views or similar experiences or indeed any positive experiences also welcomed?
im sorry you came out of a therapy session feeling shitty. although ive never been to therapy myself, i can imagine that some therapists just want to get home and arent bothered enough to mask their own emotions and focus on yours. its not your fault. go for another couple of sessions, and if this therapist isnt working for you, switch over.
your comfort level with your doc/therapist makes all the difference to your treatment/counselling and your general perception of their advice.
you just had a tough day, leave it at that and try not to dwell on it too much.
as for medication, i completely understand your apprehension. youre right to be concerned about side effects / dependency / withdrawl.
I wouldnt say that these medications are pushed my pharmaceuticals, at the end of the day, drug testing has proved efficacy and they do have specific interactions with your brain cells that can improve / stabilize moods.
Medication is the second last resort ( the last being electroconvulsive therpy, or TMS), but it has shown a lot of benefit to those who dose themselves carefully and regularly and are in close contact with their prescribing doctor.
of you have high intraocular pressure, you should consult your doctor about if its safe.
just read up on it on webmd.
dont be afraid of medication. but from experience, if you think its a phase and it will pass and you dont really need medication, try to get these negative feelings out of your system for a couple of weeks. if youre still uneasy, then take the meds because they will help.
if you have a tendency to harm yourself or others, take the meds.
i reallly hope you get through this!
 
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Honestly I was wary of taking sertraline but thought I had nothing to loose. I was one step away from ending up on a mental health ward despite my best efforts to carry on with life and work . I was surprised that they did help.

I came off it for a few months thinking all was well and under control yet now I'm back in a world of hell so I restarted it again 2 weeks ago and this time I wont stop It again when I start feeling ok. Its has already made it easier to get out of bed each morning.

Theres bad side effects at first but I know eventually they die down. I would encourage you to give them a try things cant get any worse!
 
Mrs Tiggywinkle

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Thanks, Autumnwinter, I’m tempted to take the Sertraline, but it’s the high pressure in my eyes and it’s my anxiety which is super high at the moment about lots of things. I will be anxious of taking them too lol, because of my eyes (can’t win). I have made an appointment to get another eye pressure test at my opticians next week and see if they have gone up pressure wise and take it from there.

I certainly can’t go on like this. I’ve been on different meds for years, so it’s not like I’m not used to them. I’m just looking for the best option for me at this time. You say you were one step away from a mental health ward, I can see where you’re coming from and I’m sorry you felt that way. I’m kind of wary of telling everyone just how bad I feel(some times worse than others). Part of me wants to act on the way I’m feeling, but part of me wants help. I’m so torn at times and I don’t want a fuss if you know what I mean. It’s so difficult! :low:
 
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Thanks, Autumnwinter, I’m tempted to take the Sertraline, but it’s the high pressure in my eyes and it’s my anxiety which is super high at the moment about lots of things. I will be anxious of taking them too lol, because of my eyes (can’t win). I have made an appointment to get another eye pressure test at my opticians next week and see if they have gone up pressure wise and take it from there.

I certainly can’t go on like this. I’ve been on different meds for years, so it’s not like I’m not used to them. I’m just looking for the best option for me at this time. You say you were one step away from a mental health ward, I can see where you’re coming from and I’m sorry you felt that way. I’m kind of wary of telling everyone just how bad I feel(some times worse than others). Part of me wants to act on the way I’m feeling, but part of me wants help. I’m so torn at times and I don’t want a fuss if you know what I mean. It’s so difficult! :low:
those last two sentences are Feels.
im torn as hell but ive made a decision to try and divert my mind from my issues while trying to focus on my career. i hope that once i get on with my work and i have a good and stable job, that will stabilize my feelings of inadequacy and help me ignore negative commentary from outside sources
 
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I am new here feeling alone old and lost ...i read positive sites but feel like nothing is helping had 3 therapists over the past year none of them seem to get me ..they keep saying my meds will help me feel better but i know i need to make a change but where do i start
 
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I am new here feeling alone old and lost ...i read positive sites but feel like nothing is helping had 3 therapists over the past year none of them seem to get me ..they keep saying my meds will help me feel better but i know i need to make a change but where do i start
hey peachy, sorry for your situation.
I would keep trying new therapists till I find someone I connect with. When you feel heard, cared for and understood by someone, half your problems will be solved and the meds can take care of the rest.
As for making a change, start small. take one step at a time and do stuff that you enjoy and gives you satisfaction.
eg. when i find it hard to get out of bed in the morning, I pry myself off and clean.
I've spent hours scrubbing down walls, floors, rearranging my place etc etc.
I usually do it with good, uplifting music. My worries are swept away and I get some exercise out of it.
Once, done I shower and walk back into a room thats sparkling and it gives me a satisfaction that even a good dessert cant compare to.
 
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