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thats a really sweet story
its sad that I cant get that close to a dog
and I'm afraid yours would frighten me
he looks quite big

I do feel I'm benefitting from this thread though
 
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He is quite big. I'm sorry he frightens you, but by looking at this pic your concern isn't completely unwarranted. Normally I wouldn't post this pic of him. Why? Because he looks really uncomfortable and unpredictable. Which he was. I know this not b/c I remember taking this photo but b/c I can see. His haunches are tensed, perhaps because he's in a precarious position sitting on that bench, but then clearly he's eyeballing something (probably a bird) and he's prepped to jolt off at any second after it. His back also is hunched also indicating his mood.

Keep in mind he was a pup at the time so his impulse control was limited. It takes time to expose the dog to various stimuli to get them to maintain focus.

I would say your instinct of fear here wasn't necessarily wrong -- in spite of the fact you wouldn't have had anything to fear if you'd been there. Does that make sense?
 
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yes that does make sense ... same is true of people sometimes
there might be someone we get on with
that other people are frightened of

I just remembered another positive dog memory
it was a book called the dog whisperer I think
I loved the horse whisperer, and then the dog whisperer

she said that a dog needs to feel confident
that the human is in charge, like an alpha male or female
and recommends that humans eat their food first in front of the dog
before feeding the dog

in order to show their superiority
otherwise the dog will go crazy like a dictator !
 
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yes that does make sense ... same is true of people sometimes
there might be someone we get on with
that other people are frightened of

I just remembered another positive dog memory
it was a book called the dog whisperer I think
I loved the horse whisperer, and then the dog whisperer

she said that a dog needs to feel confident
that the human is in charge, like an alpha male or female
and recommends that humans eat their food first in front of the dog
before feeding the dog

in order to show their superiority
otherwise the dog will go crazy like a dictator !
Yeah... The whole "Alpha" bit is popular nowadays. It's probably really great stuff for folks who aren't in-tune with dogs. Me? I never even once wondered if the dog considered my status. It's a dog. Duh.

I'll feed my dog first, I'll let the dog go in the house first, I do myriad things that this dogma(ha!) advises against. I'm not saying what they're preaching isn't (kinda) true, but as far as the dog is concerned, either you're the boss or you're not, whether or not he eats first.
 
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Hey @Zoe1 i think you're on the right track.

I want to say best wishes and keep up the good work. What's wrong with just spending time with the dogs you like/trust and otherwise reserving judgment as to the rest. That seems like a good rule of thumb for any human & not just for judging dogs.
 
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well maybe that book is for people
who are not naturally good with their dogs

I dont know any dogs I like currently
I was thinking of past examples

x x x
 
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My friend had a fear of German Shepherd dogs that used to leave her frozen and unable to move when she saw one. When I got a German Shepherd puppy, we made sure she was involved with the dog from the word go - handling the nine week old pup and building a bond with the small ball of fur. Of course, the dog grew - but the gradual increase is barely perceptible when you see a puppy daily. By the time my dog reached maturity, my friend had a strong bond with a huge and somewhat intimidating-sized dog and it removed her fear of German Shepherds.

As I said in a previous post - going to puppy socialising groups is a great way to build your confidence. Some of the pups grow to twice their size over a matter of weeks and you'll suddenly find you are confidently walking around a field and patting big dogs without realising. :hug:
 
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thankyou Lunar that is a lovely story that I can imagine ...

I looked up puppy socialising groups in my area
and it seems to be all about training the dogs
rather than introducing them to people

:hug:
 
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thankyou Lunar that is a lovely story that I can imagine ...

I looked up puppy socialising groups in my area
and it seems to be all about training the dogs
rather than introducing them to people

:hug:
Training dogs might be the answer! It's fun and challenging and teaches you patience and understanding. I'd opt for a training course over cuddling sessions if you truly want to understand dog behaviors.
 
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thankyou Lunar that is a lovely story that I can imagine ...

I looked up puppy socialising groups in my area
and it seems to be all about training the dogs
rather than introducing them to people

:hug:
If you find an established dog training school, they often host 'puppy romps' on the weekends where people let their pups play together and romp in a field off lead. They might not be advertised, so if there is a permanent-based trainer - give them a call.

Vets often run these groups too, as 'puppy parties'.

Hope you can find something Zoe. xxx
 
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