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first of all sorry to the many dog lovers
I have tried to love dogs but so far not succeeded

when I was 4 I was knocked down by a large labrador
belonging to my great aunt
I was down the end of her garden on my own
and it knocked me onto my face on the patio

ive been frightened of dogs ever since
and my neighbours have a very noisy dog that to me sounds aggressive
and sometimes barks all evening
which makes me feel distressed

they probably dont take it out very much I think
but its also partly my problem that I'm so frightened of them

x x x
 
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first of all sorry to the many dog lovers
I have tried to love dogs but so far not succeeded

when I was 4 I was knocked down by a large labrador

belonging to my great aunt
I was down the end of her garden on my own
and it knocked me onto my face on the patio

ive been frightened of dogs ever since
and my neighbours have a very noisy dog that to me sounds aggressive
and sometimes barks all evening
which makes me feel distressed

they probably dont take it out very much I think
but its also partly my problem that I'm so frightened of them

x x x
I don't think apology required.

Phobias almost certainly often come from experiences, and if first one is bad, the always has potential issue.

I'm same with horses.

Of course, more dogs around than horses though
 
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thankyou. one of my nephews is afraid of horses
because a horse bit him
whereas I'm not afraid of horses
so it goes back to child hood I guess
I dont know if its possible to be cured of this
 
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Find out where your local 'puppy socialising' group is and give them a ring. I've met people at puppy romps who are tackling a fear of dogs - some of the pups are big and bouncy but you might relax when you realise they're good-natured softies and start to enjoy them. You can build up from there.

You don't need to love them but it will be better for your quality of life if you find some confidence around them. xx
 
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vey much

actually you know what I used to be afraid of daddy long legs
because my mothers friend was afraid of them and would scream

and for some reason I seem to be cured of that fear
I do not like them, but they no longer frighten me

I dont know why that fear went away
I'm more scared of moths actually !

hug
 
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thankyou Lunar I will consider looking into it ! x x
 
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I'm sorry that a childhood scare carried over into your adulthood. And now I feel super crappy about how one child reacted to my dog. I was at an outdoor cafe when some parents asked if their 3y/o daughter could pet my Rott. He was a puppy at the time, tho probably 60lbs and as tall as the child. I should have said no. But I wasn't thinking.

No Child or Dog Was Harmed but...

I showed the girl the safe way to give the dog treats and she was super excited which of course got the pup excited. Unfortunately as I was distracted chatting with the parents the dog was getting frustrated that the girl wasn't giving him more treats. So he gave out one loud bark. It wasn't a warning bark or an aggressive bark, but I know his temperment. I tried to explain to the girl but she was terrified. She started to cry. I tried to get her to approach him again but she wouldn't have anything to do with him.

Now after reading your story I wonder if I scarred her. Not good.
 
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yes but you didnt scold her or anything
or force her to approach the dog again
no it sounds fine what you did !
we are so hard on ourselves ... x x x
 
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i don't like dogs either cos of a similar experience, but ive come to accept that its mostly the owners fault how their dog behaves, so bad dog probably equals bad owner
 
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yes but you didnt scold her or anything
or force her to approach the dog again
no it sounds fine what you did !
we are so hard on ourselves ... x x x
Thanks @zoe. I'd like to think it didn't matter, but after reading your story I wonder. She had a fairly intense reaction. She was terrified. I only hope she has family who have dogs so she can gradually learn to be comfortable again.

For my part I stopped taking the dog to certain places after that incident and I'm way more mindful about children -- my dog wants to play, play, play, but he's too big to play with little kids safely. I wish I could do that scene over. It's important to know that even minor incidents can have a lasting impact. Any responsible dog owner would benefit from your story.
 
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zoe ,I wish you could meet my Maddie x she would make such a fuss of you x she is so harmless
im sorry you have a fear of dogs ,I think is understandable as your experience was at such a young age
but my baby is my world xxxx
 
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thankyou flame heart yes I think its their responsibility

hwy, yes but we MH clients are really hard on ourselves
as if we can never be forgiven for making a mistake ...

fairy lu yes I'm sure she is lovely
I have met some lovely dogs , especially the red setters I met in Scotland
it just frightens me when they bark a lot

I can understand how she could be your world
I feel like that about cats

x x x
 
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i was bitten by a dog 10 months ago and i still get nervous of dogs that are off the lead and on these extendible leads with the owner not payiing the least bit of attention to what their dog is doing. i had one lurch at me again just a few days ago and i made it clear that i was not happy, oh he friendly lmao it was a friendly dog....
 
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