- Jun 3, 2020
- Los Angeles
Do you have one? What is it like for you? I guess I always had one but not sure if they are good for me.
No doubt! Nevertheless, I just can't get my mind around the idea that the person you're *with* wouldn't be the person who's most important to you, and who you most think about and want to please. I can't even begin to comprehend how that could work.I would think having your FP and your SO the same person would get very complicated
This is me, too.when I do I can be extremely cold and cruel. In the heat of the moment though, it always feels like necessary self-defence.
For me, this is like a temporary phase. It's like the "overprotective" aspect kicks in and convinces me the best way to be able to take care of somebody is to be dating them. And, then, after much stress, I realize, for me, "smitten" doesn't equal love or even sexual attraction.Something I don't get is when people have an FP but don't have any romantic interest in them. My FP's are always female, and even if things started out innocently enough I've always developed stronger feelings when that desire to be close with and to please the other person kicks in.
AbsolutelyWhen things go wrong though... Christ, it's explosive.
I guess in my case I needed an FP so I complain about my spouse! So I guess it would depend on what your needs are.No doubt! Nevertheless, I just can't get my mind around the idea that the person you're *with* wouldn't be the person who's most important to you, and who you most think about and want to please. I can't even begin to comprehend how that could work.
I have plenty of female friends where sex has never been a factor.Some people say that a man and woman cannot be friends that are becoming sexual.
One issue with having FPs is that, well, there is no promise they feel exactly teh same way for us we feel for them.We have never gone this long but I don’t think he really cares I am the only one Who is bothered by it
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