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Father has delusional disorder + other issues

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Hello all,

I will try to keep this short and as to the point as possible... basically my father is struggling from a number of different mental health issues (I am not a doctors or specialist, so I may be wrong with the 'disorders' here but from all the reading I have done, it all sounds quite textbook.

- Delusion Disorder: for a decade now he has had many obsessions against neighbours doctors and police that have resulted in him trying to a). get a restraining order out against a neighbour because he truly believes this person is hacking into their TV, phone etc. b). sue doctors and the NHS because he believes he has multiple serious health issues that they are 'covering up') and c). sue the police because he believe they follow him even when in other countries (if a helicopter goes over head, he thinks it is following him).

I'm pretty sure he has Borderline Personality Disorder too, and potentially low Emotional EQ but I'll not go into those here.

Basically, I do not know how to help. He is SO convinced by all of this I can't even ask a question that remotely hints at there being another explanation for the things he believes are happening, he gets VERY angry and accuses us of not believing him.

Has anybody else gone through this, and how did you get them help if they can't admit there's anything wrong? It's affect the quality of his life but also everyone around him.

Thanks a lot in advance :)
 
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:welcome: to the Forum. It's so hard and sad when a family member is delusional. And if he doesn't want to seek professional help, there isn't much you can do. He's in his own world and you can't really change him. You can't even make good contact. It's hard to accept. And unless he starts running around the neighborhood with a gun, you can't really get the police involved.

The only thing you can do is provide for your own sanity; not to spend too much time with him and his delusions. Do the basics and then leave.
 
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Yo, can't say much on that but are you sure that he is not "doped" on any level? Otherwise it's totally impossible to say is he BLD.
 
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Hi,
My psychiatrist thinks I now might have delusional disorder, it's very rare.
I didn't have any insight into my illness, my Drs got mental health involved as I was emailing them lots.
They sectioned me under the mental health act, I'm doing much better now.
You could go to your dads dr and explain your concerns.
Good luck.
 
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I know someone diagnosed with Bipolar 1 and they can be very delusional, just like you described. I also know someone else who became delusional and irritable due to lack of vitamin B12. You might think that was due to not "eating a balanced diet", but older people are more prone to deficiency, plus there are auto-immune conditions such as pernicious anemia that can cause B12 deficiency. Another person I knew was very vulnerable to wild conspiracy theories and fitted the "single white male living alone" demographic. My point being there are a whole range/combination of things that could be related to how your father is.
I agree you should look after yourself, do the basics for your father, and don't expose yourself to too much of the delusions. I try not to play along with delusions, so I say that I see things differently, maybe explain how I see things. I do not argue....when someone is delusional, rational argument will probably not sway their beliefs.
Writing a letter to your father's GP in confidence is a good idea. You could call his mental health crisis team if you feel it's appropriate (even though he is not diagnosed with a condition/ not referred to a mental health team).
 
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Shit... you and I are in the SAME BOAT. My mother went through the same BS as your father did.
She said everybody was out to harass her, and she was full on aggressive. And hell yeah, she was attacked by people and I had to defend her against them. Even doctors rejected her, and I had to send to Korea's finest general hospital... Then she was cured.

Before I lived in South Korea, I lived in US. She got attacked and abused by police due to her behavior... She was worse back then... That was 10 years ago...

I had to take care of her on my own while facing my bipolar disorder... not sweet! :(
 
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Hello all,

I will try to keep this short and as to the point as possible... basically my father is struggling from a number of different mental health issues (I am not a doctors or specialist, so I may be wrong with the 'disorders' here but from all the reading I have done, it all sounds quite textbook.

- Delusion Disorder: for a decade now he has had many obsessions against neighbours doctors and police that have resulted in him trying to a). get a restraining order out against a neighbour because he truly believes this person is hacking into their TV, phone etc. b). sue doctors and the NHS because he believes he has multiple serious health issues that they are 'covering up') and c). sue the police because he believe they follow him even when in other countries (if a helicopter goes over head, he thinks it is following him).

I'm pretty sure he has Borderline Personality Disorder too, and potentially low Emotional EQ but I'll not go into those here.

Basically, I do not know how to help. He is SO convinced by all of this I can't even ask a question that remotely hints at there being another explanation for the things he believes are happening, he gets VERY angry and accuses us of not believing him.

Has anybody else gone through this, and how did you get them help if they can't admit there's anything wrong? It's affect the quality of his life but also everyone around him.

Thanks a lot in advance :)
Hi,
I went through this with my mom. She was scary for me to reason with, because this started when I was 12. Often I was quiet and almost responded as if I understood because I was afraid to upset her further. That was a nightmare. Things would go in circles. Someone else would upset her and that was a nightmare and made me completely angry if it weren't someone that had to live with it. Unfortunately it got worse and I tried to get her to get help. Eventually, she had no choice. Meds helped for awhile, then not so much.
 
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Hi,
I went through this with my mom. She was scary for me to reason with, because this started when I was 12. Often I was quiet and almost responded as if I understood because I was afraid to upset her further. That was a nightmare. Things would go in circles. Someone else would upset her and that was a nightmare and made me completely angry if it weren't someone that had to live with it. Unfortunately it got worse and I tried to get her to get help. Eventually, she had no choice. Meds helped for awhile, then not so much.
That's fucked up... :low:

We had to try countless medications to get her straight. We had to change psychiatric clinics due to limits on what they could prescribe. They tried everything. This hospital we're going worked though...
 

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